AITA for telling my wife to either take my money or she can leave my house with our kids?

I am a doctor, anesthesiology resident. I make good amount of money. My wife does not work. By choice. I honestly do not mind. I make enough. <br><br>I am 38, she is 35. We have two kids together, 3 and 5. So we have been together 8 years. We also have 3 cats and a dog. She used to work before we had kids, but after our first she decided that she didn't want to be apart from our child. And I was okay with it. <br><br>I honest to God don't have a problem with her not contributing. She does a lot at home. And I work my ass off. <br><br>I have a job that is often unpredictable. I often work 12 hour shifts, sometimes more. I am in the hospital at least 50 hours a week. I give my wife an allowance of $2500 a month for her and our kids. And another $5000 for the house. This is plenty, trust me. <br><br>My issue with her, is that she constantly complains about not having time for herself. She constantly complains about how I don't give her enough. Wtf?? <br><br>I didn't have a big problem with this until I started to notice that instead of spending money on our kids, she was spending it on herself. She would go out to expensive restaurants with her gal pals, have spa days and buy really expensive clothing. <br><br>We don't really go out as a family. I work so much I barely even have time for myself let alone my own family. I barely get to see my kids. <br><br>I confronted her about all of this, and she accused me of trying to control her and said that she does so much and deserves to be pampered. <br><br>I don't know what to do anymore.