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I want to end my marriage after my wife relocated for a "fresh start".

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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My wife (28F) and I (30M) have been married for 6 months and been together for 3 years. I have a job in a big city (its a good job that pays very well and i love it) and she has a job in a smaller city (it pays considerably less and there are less job opportunities in her field there). I was based in the smaller city due to my role at the time and relocated to the big city once the opportunity came up about a year ago. She stayed in the smaller city. For a year, we did long distance and were thinking of moving in together once she had relocated to the big city. <br><br>A few months ago, she relocated to the big city and we moved in together when our lease for our previous apartments ended. We decided to keep our old apartments for a few months as we werent sure if we were compatible living together. Last week, she told me she had a fresh start mentality when she moved to the big city and wanted to restart as the best version of herself. She said she was really excited and looking forward to exploring the city and trying new things and meeting new people. She said she was glad I was in her life but she wanted to explore the city on her own. She said although we planned to move in together, and did move in together, she had also thought about staying in her own place when she moved to the big city. She said she was sorry she didnt communicate her thoughts to me because she knew I was looking forward to moving in together. She said if it was possible for us to go back in time, she would have communicated her thoughts to me before we signed the lease. <br><br>I was devastated because I thought she was looking forward to us living together and know shes been wanting to for about a year but just had to wait for her circumstances to change before she could. I felt incredibly stupid that I moved in with someone who didnt want to live together. I feel like it was selfish for her to not tell me her thoughts before we moved in together because she knew I was looking forward to it. <br><br>Im really heart broken and feel betrayed and selfish. The last few nights, Ive been staying with a friend because I dont feel like I can be in the same house as her. I dont know how I can look at her the same way, let alone spend the rest of my life with her. Should I end our marriage?<br><br>Tl;dr - my wife just moved to the big city for a fresh start and told me shes not ready to live together. I already moved in with her and cant imagine spending the rest of my life with her. Should I end our marriage?<br><br>Edit - I'm just reading some comments now. We did set up our joint apartment together. Thats why im heartbroken because she knew we had set up our home together and i thought we were happy living together.

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