I (25M) found out my (24F) GF of 5 years is pregnant and I’m not excited at all

I (25M) and my GF (24F) have been together for 5 years. She lives in our old apartment overseas with her family, and I live in the U.S. where I work and study. So we are currently in a LDR. <br><br>Everything was great. We have plans to meet in person again in a couple of months, and we were discussing marriage. We planned on getting married and then filing for spousal visa so we can live together. <br><br>I want to preface that I love kids, but I’m not ready for them yet. I haven’t met my financial and career goals yet, and I’m unsure if I want to raise kids in the US or in our home country. <br><br>I spoke to her a couple of days ago and she told me she’s 3 months pregnant. I was completely shocked because we used condoms and she was on the pill. Clearly it failed lol. I wasn’t excited, I was more annoyed than anything. I’ve been working towards my career goals for a long time and now it’s going to take longer. I don’t feel excited for the baby like I’m supposed to, I feel like I’m having a baby because I have to and not because I want to. I’m not ready to be a father and I don’t know when I will be. <br><br>She offered to abort the baby but I told her that I don’t want to make that decision, it should be hers. However, she’s scared to abort the baby and said that her parents are against abortion and would kick her out if they find out. <br><br>We’re both scared about raising a child knowing I’m not excited for the baby, but I don’t want to abandon them either. I’m planning on coming home immediately and getting married and filing for spousal visa soon but I’m scared. I’m feeling really confused and lost and I don’t know what to do. <br><br>TLDR: I’m not excited for the baby and I don’t know what to do