No, you’re not a victim.

You know those people who post on here like <br><br>“Hey, I’m a female. I’ve been in the dating game for a number of years and have been screwed over by a man / men. And I’ve also done a number of things wrong myself but looking back I wish I’d done things differently because I am honestly a great person but I’ve been so damn lucky to meet my current bf because he’s amazing and he’s the light in the darkness that is the dating game. I will never do this, this, this, this, and this again.” (Weirdly enough, it’s always weird / erotic shit, lol)<br><br> <br>And then they have hundreds of comments / replies / upvotes from dudes on here virtue signalling. “I’ve been screwed over too but I ain’t mad at ya :)”. “You sound like a nice person, maybe were just in the wrong place at the wrong time :)”. “I can’t believe you’ve been screwed over that bad, you sound like a really nice person :)”. “I can’t believe people do that, that’s so terrible :(”. Etc. Etc. Etc. <br><br> <br>You’re not a victim because you’re the one who made the fucking choices. Nobody ever forced you to be with anyone / do anything. Nobody ever forced you to swipe left / right. Nobody ever forced you to go on a date. Nobody ever forced you to go home with someone. Nobody ever forced you to do anything. You made the choice to do what you did, because you wanted to, and no, being vulnerable does not make you a victim. <br>And you’re not a victim because you won’t get justice for anything that happened to you. There is no justice system for the dating game. There is no safety net. There is nobody to go to for help. There is nobody to make you feel better / more secure. There is no help. There is no justice. Nobody gives a fuck that you got screwed over because it was your decision to be vulnerable enough in the first place. Nobody gives a fuck that you got screwed over, because you’re not special enough / important enough / influential enough to have anything happen to you. And quite frankly nobody cares because nobody cares about you. You are nobody’s priority. And nobody cares because you got screwed over for a reason. Your vulnerable ass decided to go home with somebody you barely knew, and now you’re a “victim”. Fuck off ?.<br><br> <br>And you’re not a victim because you continue to give your vulnerability away to anybody, everybody, no matter how shitty the dating game has been to you previously. You continue to open your legs, or shut your mouth, or take off your shirt, or give your phone number out, or give your address out, or go on dates, or go to the bar / club, or swipe left / right. You were a victim once, maybe twice, maybe a few times more than that, but you’re not anymore, because you’re still giving your vulnerability away to vulnerable people. And being vulnerable in a sea full of vulnerable people is virtue signalling at its finest. You’re not a victim if you continue to play the game, because you’re a willing participant.