My (31m) wife (31f) didn't make a cake for our son (3m).

We have a tradition where my son goes to his grandparents house for the weekend once a month. It's mostly so my wife and I can have some time alone (partly to have some sex). This month we decided to host his birthday party there instead of at home, and everyone had a great time. <br><br>Afterwards, my wife and I came home to start cleaning up our house, which was kind of a mess after she spent the whole week getting everything ready for the party. We were putting away some of her kitchen stuff she used to make everything for the party, and I asked her "you didn't make his birthday cake, did you?" And she said yes, she made two actually. One for the party, and one just for us three to eat at home.<br><br>I don't know if it's weird or not, but I kind of have this tradition with my son where I make him chocolate cake with chocolate frosting on his birthday. His first year, I made one because it was like 2am and no stores were open to buy one. The second year, he saw the pictures from the first year and asked why the cake was cut up, and I told him it was the cake I made him for his first birthday, and he said he wanted another one just like it. It's kind of our thing now.<br><br>So I asked her why she made him a cake instead of saving it for when I could make him one at home. She basically told me she spent way too long on the two she made for the party, and wanted to keep one at home for us to eat, and didn't want to waste a third cake since she doesn't like chocolate. I said okay, but I kind of wanted to make one for him like I do every year. Then she sort of snapped and told me she doesn't always get to do things like that with him, and that I should be more considerate and grateful of the effort she puts into making things special for him.<br><br>I don't know what to think. Is she in the right? Does she have a valid point? Should I just be happy that she wanted to include him in something? Or can I be allowed to have my own traditions with him? I would ask her, but this got so blow out of proportion that I feel like asking now will just make things worse. Honestly, this all happened four days ago, but we've basically just been avoiding talking since then, this is the first time I really have a chance to talk about it.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>tl;dr! My wife made a cake for our son's birthday instead of letting me make one, which has been a tradition between us since his first birthday. So now she's upset with me because I said I wanted to keep that tradition.