CMV: porn is so ubiquitous and normalised that dating someone who doesn’t watch it is the minority, and it’s porn that’s the real problem when opposable partners have vastly different sex drives

Firstly, for the sake of this discussion let’s assume that the standard opposable partners dating are both adults and both single. <br><br>I wish I could say that I porn is the problem for the minority of couples, but I believe that porn is so ubiquitous and so normalised that the minority are now the small percentage of porn free people. <br><br>If you’re in a relationship where both partners have vastly different sex drives then the majority of the time it’s not the relationship, it’s not the opposable partners opposable-ness, it’s the porn. <br><br>Porn is designed to be addictive, that’s just a fact. It can be entertaining in moderate amounts (similar to video games, or sky sports, or whatever else), but if your porn consumption is so high that you’re masturbating 5 times a day, then that’s an addiction. <br><br>An addiction to porn means that you’re going to struggle with intimacy because a partners touch won’t be enough to get you hard so fast because your brain is so wired to the dopamine hit of porn that opposable touch can’t compete. Your brain is constantly comparing your partner to the hundreds of women you’ve wanked over, so of course you’re going to struggle to cum because your partner isn’t enough. <br><br>This is a massive problem that no one wants to discuss because porn is so normalised. <br><br>I don’t think we should ban porn, but I think we do need to educate kids and young adults that porn isn’t a reflection of real life, that it’s not healthy to watch hours of it a day, and that it’s addictive. <br><br>I’m not saying that all relationships with vastly different sex drives are a direct result of porn addiction, but I do think that the majority of the time It’s a result of porn.