My (33m) wife (32f) stepped out and we got pregnant at the same time. I think our sons might be full siblings. 2 days ago I found out we both cheated on each other at the same time.

After 5 years of trying, we were on the cusp of getting fertility testing when my wife found out she was pregnant. 3 months later I received a call from a collection agency that I had a balance of $700 odd dollars for a stay at a Marriott Hotel where I had stayed after a baseball game while out of town for work. It was the off-season for baseball and I remember the hotel being a shithole. The hotel admitted there had been a mistake on their part and cancelled the debt. It didn’t sit right though, because I remember staying in a Holiday Inn. I go back through my credit card statements and sure enough there is the charge. The date caught my eye though, our anniversary weekend when my wife wanted to stay at a fancy airbnb with a hot tub and I wanted to go to a sporting event 4 hours away. I packed my things and went to the event. <br><br>I pull the charge for the stay up and the address is in our city, about a mile from a professional football stadium. I confront my wife about it and she is vague and evasive. I don’t know how she thought she was going to get away with it because I pay every bill in the household, but I let her dig her own grave with her lies. She finally admitted to meeting up with an old flame from high school. She was clear that it was a physical meeting and not just a catch up meeting. She didn’t seem very remorseful. In fact she seemed almost smug about the whole thing. I told her I would need some time to process this, so I went to a friend’s house to stay and clear my head. <br><br>Now I’m a catch. I make good money and I’m in great shape. I’m usually quick to diffuse tension with humor. The long and short of it is I went out to a bar last night and ended up going home with a lady. When we were being intimate she asked me to tell her I loved her and I did, but I lied and it felt horrible. I never understood why someone would cheat until it happened to me last night. <br><br>The problem I’m dealing with now is I need to figure out a way to tell my wife without her knowing I went home with someone else. I feel like I need to tell her I’m done because I don’t feel I can be in a relationship with her anymore. I also need to figure out a way to keep the house because I put in way more work into it than her and my money is what pays for it. I’m planning on speaking with a lawyer tomorrow. <br><br>Oh, and our sons. My wife has been giving me the silent treatment since I left so I’m not sure she’ll see this, but it was a 100 to 1 chance we both were going to cheat on each other the same weekend, and 100 to 1 chances are what got us our twins in the first place.