I love complimenting the beautiful, chubby women I see

I just want to preface this with a note, I’m aware this will come off a little odd- please bare with me. <br><br>I want to start with a story. I didn’t grow up with a particularly happy home life. I’ve spoken about it on another thread briefly but my father in particular was incredibly toxic to me. He called me awful things growing up, and more recently he told me I will never be married and it’s because I’m too fat. Saying he had no right to be complimented by women because I was such a low value person. At the time, it had crushed me, and I still struggle to a degree with how I see myself and what I believe my worth is. <br><br>I am a complimentor. I love complimenting women I find pretty because I know complimenting can bring a bit of joy and light into a person’s day. I always make sure to never sexualize or comment on their physical appearance in a way that would make it sound like I’m complimenting them in a sexual manner. I’d never ever want a woman to feel uncomfortable or unsafe. <br><br>I give genuine compliments to women of all shapes and sizes, however I find myself more often gravitating towards women who are plus sized- or what I find to be plus sized. I compliment them on their hair, their smile, their laugh, their eyes- whatever features I find to be compelling to me. I love watching a woman’s face light up when I tell her she’s a beautiful woman. I love watching her posture change ever so slightly as she seems to stand a bit taller. I feel like I’m getting a bit of my own revenge when I see a woman light up like that. I feel like I’m able to repay some of the ass kicking I got as a kid by giving a compliment to an already beautiful woman. Now, I’m not saying she’s not beautiful, I just want to say I love being able to do that for a woman I find to be beautiful in every way.<br><br>This may sound awful, and I don’t expect anyone to agree with me, but I feel better when I compliment women who are plus sized, than I do when I compliment women who are smaller, because I feel like I’m not just complimenting them- I feel like I’m giving them a more profound type of compliment. I feel like I’m( hopefully ) undoing a small part of the damage that society does when it tells a woman she isn’t beautiful because of her size. I find myself particularly drawn to women who have features like mine. <br><br>I want to reiterate I’m not saying a woman isn’t beautiful unless I compliment her. My point was simply that I love to compliment women who are plus sized because I want them to feel beautiful because I think they are. <br><br>I’ve complimented women in all settings- at grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, or at work. I don’t just do it in a romantic setting. I don’t only find beautiful women to be the women I’m attracted to romantically. I’m not trying to get these women’s numbers or flirt with them. I genuinely just want to share a kind moment, and help change their day a little bit. I’ve even had a few tell me how I’ve impacted their lives. One woman in particular told me she was having suicidal thoughts, and hearing me tell her she was a beautiful person made her want to live again. She was a beautiful, chubby woman with curly red hair. I don’t know if it’s true, but it’s what motivates me to keep doing it. <br><br>I don’t want you to think I have some sort of complex, I just want to put a bit of good in the world. I can’t change my parents point of view, but I can share that point of view with others in the hopes of undoing damage they may have faced themselves. <br><br>I can’t wait to be able to find a plus sized woman who I can hopefully build a life together with. <br><br>Edit:<br><br>I want to say I appreciate the kind words people have shared. It can be a bit nerve wracking to share something like this with a large audience, and most of you have been very kind, and in some cases have even included you’re own personal story- so thank you. <br><br>Yes, I am a woman and this is from the perspective of a queer woman. And yes, my dad is an asshole.