I 41m was denied being a potential kidney donor for my wife 36f due to my weight; she thinks it’s all because of the 15 pound weight gain I had during the pandemic.

My wife and I are both 100% compatible in blood and tissues. Thus, I was the biggest candidate for donating a kidney to her. However, I was denied due to being overweight. <br><br>I had a huge weight loss journey about 4 years ago when I went from 270 pounds to 235 pounds. I gained 15 pounds during the pandemic, but my doctor said that in order to be a donor I had to be 235 pounds or less. Thus the 15 pounds I gained disqualified me. <br><br>My wife is upset and thinks that if I didn’t let myself gain weight during the pandemic, I would be a donor. She says that my weight gain endangered her life. She also brought up the fact that I was always consitant with my weight loss , but I let myself gain weight. She says it’s all my fault that I can’t donate because I didn’t take care of myself when I had the chance. <br><br>I feel guilty, and she’s right that if I didn’t gain the weight I would be a donor. How can I fix things between us? What should I do? She’s right that I let myself gain weight, but the urgency in her voice pierces me.