I want to be a good husband and partner but also i want my japanese wife to learn how to speak the language of the country were living in

I am white american, both english and german, and my wife is Japanese, she is from Tokyo and has lived there her whole life working in hospitality at a fancy hotel in Shinjuku etc, so she knew a great deal of English, she's 27 and i'm 38 both of us are professionals and we're married with two children, both girls, two and four, in that order<br><br>when we first met i was living in Tokyo working as a IT consultant and had lived in the country for 8 years, i'm fluent in Japanese and i have lived and worked with Japanese people my whole life since i was a teenager, what i'm getting at is that i know the culture very well and i'm very familiar with how japanese people behave etc, i also have many japanese friends who i'm very close with and they're very fond of my wife and vice versa, she's very kind and a great person<br><br>we lived in Japan until Feb this year when i got a job back in the US, we moved to where i grew up in a small town in the middle of no where in the middle west, i'm from a small town and grew up on a farm, this is where my family is from and where all my folks live, my parents, siblings etc, so to be close to family i moved back to where i grew up<br><br>the whole point of this post is that my wife is having a very hard time adjusting to living in the US, she doesn't speak any english and she is having trouble learning the language, we've lived here for the better part of a year now and she still doesn't speak a word of english, it's very frustrating for me because i think it's important to be able to communicate with the people around us, she doesn't know how to say anything in english, not even basic phrases like "how are you?" or "thank you" or "yes" or "no" etc, whenever we go out to eat or run errands she always wants me to translate for her, which is exhausting for me because i have a demanding job and i'm tired at the end of the day and i dont want to play translator for her all the time, we've had fights about this and i've told her many times i'm not her personal translator and she needs to learn english but she always tells me "it's too hard" or "i'm tired" or "i don't have time" because she says she's too busy taking care of the girls to also learn english, i feel like this is a pretty weak excuse, i work 60 hour weeks in a highly technical field and i'm also tired and exhausted all the time but i also manage to be a good dad of our two girls etc<br><br>i feel like this is also causing a lot of problems in our marriage because i'm getting really resentful towards her about having to play translator all the time, i feel like i'm her personal butler or something, i do everything for her, i pay for everything, i translate for her, i buy her all her favorite japanese snacks, i cook for her all the time, i take care of the girls 50% of the time etc, and she doesn't even have the decency to try to learn basic english phrases, she also doesn't give AF about the holidays that are important to me and my family, she doesn't give AF about easter, or christmas, or thanksgiving etc, but i always make sure to honor Obon and New Years and the Cherry Blossom Festival and all the other important holidays that are important to her and her family, i feel like she doesn't really respect me or my family or our traditions<br><br>i feel like i'm really starting to resent her and i don't know what to do, i feel like there's a growing rift between us and i don't know how to fix it, i want to be a good husband and partner to her but at the same time i feel like she needs to learn how to speak english and communicate with the people around her, i'm very conflicted right now and i don't know what to do<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT: since people are asking in the comments, i pay for 100% of her japanese lessons, she has a tutor she works with every day, for an hour every day, her tutor speaks fluent japanese, i also pay for all her Rosetta Stone lessons, i pay for all her audios and podcasts and language learning apps, i pay for all her lessons, i also told her i will pay for all her college classes if she wants to take them at a local university, but she says no, i told her i will pay for her to go to a language school, she says no, i told her i will pay for her to have as much help as she needs with learning the language, i have told her i will hire an in person tutor to go to our house and teach her english but she declined, i've offered her every resource under the sun and she always declines, i don't know what else to do, i think she just doesn't want to learn and is too lazy to put in the effort