My (39F) husband (39M) said he wished I had been more ‘f**kable’ during the early years of our marriage

My husband and I are 39 years old and have been together for 17 years. We dated for 2 years before getting married. We have a 12 year old daughter.<br><br>During our early years of marriage, I just assumed that I had really low libidos. I didn’t think about sex much and I was never the one to initiate sex. My husband would make sexual advances towards me but I would reject them because I just didn’t really want to have sex. When I was around 29-30, however, I began to feel a huge change in my libido. I think I had either been dealing with really low libidos or I was just sexually repressed because I always grew up in a really conservative environment. Once we started becoming more sexually active, my libido skyrocketed. I stopped saying no to sex, I initiated sex, and I always tried to be in the mood when my husband wanted to have sex with me. My husband always commented about how I went from not being in the mood to being in the mood all the time.<br><br>This year, we had a huge argument. It was over something totally unrelated to sex but my husband brought up in the heat of the moment, that he wished I had been more ‘fuckable’ during our early years of marriage. He said that he wished I would have been more sexually active, that I would initiate sex, that I would have been more in the mood, that I would have wanted to have sex with him more than he wanted to have sex with me, and that I had been a more sexually open person to try out kinks and explore with him sexually. He apologized later but the comment stuck with me.<br><br>In retrospect, I just don’t understand why he didn’t try harder especially during our early years of marriage to try to encourage me to open up sexually. I feel like he should have been more supportive, communicative about his needs, and understanding that I wasn’t comfortable with opening up sexually yet. I grew up in a conservative environment where sex was frowned upon unless it was for procreation. Being sexually active was also frowned upon in my culture. He knew this when he married me and I just don’t understand why he just let us go about having minimal sex when we first got married. I feel like he just went along with it and expected things to get better which they did over the years. But I just feel hurt that he never really did anything to help me sexually open up. Am I being too sensitive or should I feel hurt over this?