How (and why) would women approach a date with a potential long term partner differently than a date with someone they knew would be a short term hookup?

I once had a woman I had gone on a date with reach out and say “I’ve decided I’m interested in a hook up. Want to get together?” That was it. <br><br>I said sure and she came over and we hooked up. <br><br>The next day she told me that she was compatible with me sexually but not good long term match because I wasn’t feminine enough. <br><br>I was compatible with her sexually but not a good long term match because she was too easy. I don’t have any problem with people hooking up casually, but I want someone who at least acts like they respect themselves. <br><br>However, I was happy to have a short term hookup because I had recently broken up with my girlfriend of several years. <br><br>But back to the question. That original date she asked me on wasn’t very good. I think part of it was that she wasn’t really interested romantically (she admitted after the fact that she was looking for a hook up from the beginning) and part if it was that she was just bad at dates. <br><br>I would think a date with a woman looking for a long term partner would be a very different experience than a date with a woman looking for a hook up. <br><br>So what would be different (if anything) about a woman’s approach to a date if she’s looking for something serious vs something casual? Not necessarily about the woman I described specifically but women in general.