My (35m) wife (35f) admitted to cheating on me 2 years ago and now I’m doubting our entire relationship. What should I do?

Hi, <br><br>I need some help.<br><br>I (35m) met my wife (35f) at church 10 years ago and we’ve been married for 8 years. So far, it’s been a great relationship. There have been some ups and downs along the way but I’ve loved her more each day than the day before. I’m the love of her life and vice versa. And for years, it was great. We were each other’s rock. I could rely on her for anything and she could rely on me. We’ve had our problems and argued but it was nothing that ever made me question anything.<br><br>Then we had kids. We now have a 4 y/o girl and a newborn (2 months) boy. I could tell that she was stressed with juggling the kids, house, and work. We talked many times about how she’s feeling and I’d make an honest effort to do more to help her out but she always felt overwhelmed. This went on for 2 years or so. I could see the toll it was starting to take on her. I’d work late and she would handle dinner and the kids. But no matter how hard I tried, she always seemed to take on the bulk of the responsibilities, which I knew wasn’t fair.<br><br>Then, less than a month ago, we had dinner with a friend from out of town who I hadn’t seen in almost 2 years. I could tell there was something different about him but couldn’t put my finger on it. After dinner, my wife confessed that this friend, let’s call him Jake, was actually her lover. That she and Jake had a sexual relationship for over a year. She admitted to meeting him for sex at a hotel the entire time we were on paternity leave.<br><br>She was in tears and begging for forgiveness. It caught me off guard and I was speechless. I wanted to lash out at her but I could see that she was already showing immense guilt. So, I’d agreed to forgive her but the trust was gone. She kept pressing for us to go to marriage counseling together, so we did. But I’m still questioning whether the relationship is salvageable.<br><br>I’m still confused about everything that’s happening. I love her with all my heart but I’m angry and hurt that she cheated on me. I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust her again. So, what should I do? Should I press for a divorce even though we both don’t want one? I’m so confused and heartbroken right now.<br><br>Tl;dr: wife cheated on me with a friend and I’m unsure of what to do now.