I (M28) just found out that my brother (M25) has been perving on my wife (F26)
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Throwaway cause I'm still the only one that knows <br><br>Background: My wife an I got married just after her 23rd birthday, we've been together for almost 6 years now. My family accepted her even though we aren't the same ethnicity (I'm white, wife is Asian, nothing wrong with that right?). My brother on the other hand, has never liked her, he's said that he thinks it's gross when the races mix and that our future kids will be disgusting mutts. Being the piece of human trash he is, of course he's denied ever saying it whenever I've brought it up to our parents, and they, well... they've just said to give him time and that he'll eventually come around. Well almost 4 years now and he still has never, and a part of me has given up on him. For context, my brother has never had a girlfriend in his life, he is a shuttle bus driver at our local airport and is a massive gaming geek, he's not really had much luck socially with people outside of work in general. <br><br>My wife and I are proud, we don't rely on anyone else for money, we both work, make a lot, we've had our struggles, we're not millionaires YET but we've been pretty lucky and have goode things happen in our lives, we've just naturally been blessed with good luck. I know this has always been a massive point of contention for my brother who, well... he just about scrapes by enough to keep a roof over his head and food in his mouth. <br><br>He's always been more my parents, and they've always spoiled him and given him attention, so much so it's made me feel like the outsider in my own family. And yet, even after all that, I've always been there for him, I've tried my best to make sure he knows that I'm always here if he ever needs help, advice, an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, you know, brother stuff. And this is how he fucking repays me? <br><br>Last week, my wife and I were going on a week long vacation to Hawaii, and we got home yesterday, we had a great time by the way, until I discovered this, which pretty much just killed the vibe <br><br>So while we were away, my brother was supposed to be watering our house plants and checking up on the house, he was the only one who had a key, and he knew that, he knew he had that responsibility. <br><br>Well, yesterday, I was putting my suitcases away, and I noticed something, pictures of my wife, all over my brother's room, pictures of her in her bikini, her in her towel, her in her underwear, pictures of her going in the bath tub, the shower, pictures of him going through her clothes, her bras, her panties, pictures of him smelling her nightgown, her perfume, her lotion, pictures of her doing all sorts of private things. <br><br>I just.... I didn't even have words, I was so fucking dumbfounded. There were so many, on his desk, his computer, his phone, his cabinet, his closet, the rooftop (weird as fuck), the balcony, everywhere. <br><br>Then I saw it, a notebook hidden amongst his gaming manuals, it was filled with the most sickening shit, things he wanted to do to my wife, descriptions of what he'd do if he ever 'got' her, he even fucking wrote a whole fucking preemptive 'apology' letter to me about how he can't help himself, that he's always been in love with her, that he'd always been jealous of me for being with her, that he wished it was him and not me, he even went as far as to say that he'd do anything to get with her even if it meant I wasn't around, that he'd fuck her on my dead/invalidated body, I just, I can't even begin to describe how fucking sickening it was, how fucking twisted, I've honestly never read anything so fucking sickening in my life. <br><br>And to top it all off, he's been into my wife's phone, I'm certain of it, he's copied her text messages to me, her nudes, her intimate pics of us together, they were all on his phone, I'm actually freaking out wondering how the hell he got into her phone, her phone is always locked, and she has a password, I have no clue as to how he was able to get in. <br><br>Honestly, I'm just, wow... I don't even know what the fuck to do, I've never felt such disgust and betrayal before, I've never felt so fucking betrayed, my own brother, my own flesh and blood, my own family, was this twisted sick creep of my wife, who's done this shit behind my back for who knows how long, my own brother, someone I've always tried to look out for, always tried to help, always tried to be there for, always tried to take care of <br><br>What the hell do I do, I mean, I'm just lost for words, seriously, I don't even know what to do, obviously, I will not, I can never tell my parents about this, not because I care about what happens to my brother, but because I just can't have my parents knowing, they'd never believe it, they'd never believe their precious son could do something like this and they'd just call me a liar and tell me I'm just making it up to get back at him because of all the 'jabs' he's made about my wife's race. <br><br>My wife, I haven't told her yet, I haven't told her yet because I know my brother's been into her phone, he's copied her nudes and personal pics, he could very well have her blocked on his number, and if he does, he'll know whenever she calls/texts him, and he'll more than likely try something stupid if he finds out, I know my wife might be pissed that I haven't told her yet but, I just can't, I have to make sure she's safe, I have to make sure that my brother doesn't know that I know, not yet, before I do anything, I have to make sure my wife is safe, I have to, her safety comes before anything else, if I have to hurt my brother, then that's what I'll do, I'll fucking do it in a heartbeat if it means keeping my wife safe, there's no fucking doubt about that <br><br>So, I just don't even know what to do, how do I tell my wife about this? Where do I even start? I just don't want her hurt, and I know that as long as I'm breathing, my wife will always be safe, no matter what, she's my wife, she always comes first, she will always come first, there's just no discussion about that, she's my wife, it's my job to protect her, and I will, no matter what, I will always love, cherish, protect, and respect her, and I'd do anything for her, anything, I'd buy her the fucking world if she wanted it, even if it means fucking killing my own brother if he ever tries to hurt her, I'd fucking do it, it would be fucking nothing <br><br>So, I just need some advice, how do I tell my wife about this? Where do I even start? I know I have to tread carefully, I know my wife will be angry, upset, so I just need any advice <br><br>tl;dr, my brother's been perving on my wife, what do I do?
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