“Love me for who I am, I am true to myself.”

I think I want to argue more about this sentiment, and I think a lot of people will disagree with me, but I don’t understand this.<br><br>A lot of people seem to have this attitude, and I have seen it in a lot of younger people.<br><br>I get that you want to be yourself, and not change for anyone, but I fundamentally don’t understand why a lot of people seem to believe that being true to yourself is a good thing. Like, what if your true self is a prick? What if your true self is someone that no one will get along with? You don’t need to babysit your partner, but why would you want a partner that isn’t someone you can spend a lot of time with?<br><br>A lot of people think that a relationship is a 50/50 thing, but that implies one person is giving more 50% than the other person.<br><br>A good relationship is a 100/100 thing. Both people need to be able to give their most amount of effort, and that is something that should be rewarding, not a chore. I don’t want a relationship where I have to babysit someone, I want a relationship that I want to put a lot of effort in, and vice versa.<br><br>A lot of time in these relationships, when one person will ask the other to make changes, or suggest a certain time to meet somewhere, they will get angry and say that you should “love me for who I am”. But that is a double standard. They want the other person to change, simply because their true self is the better person.<br><br>This sentiment is also just a useless way to hide that you are babysitting your partner. Oh sure, they are lazy and mean and rude, but I love them for who they are! That is not love, that is babysitting! Why is that a good thing? I want to love someone for who they are, not babysit them when they are rude to people and procrastinate about a lot of things and make my life harder because of it.<br><br>I don’t want someone with a higher power than me that I will have to do things for because they are incapable of babysitting themselves. I want someone who is just as powerful as me, or even more powerful than me. I want someone who is my equal, or better. I don’t want to babysit someone, I want someone to be in a relationship with.<br><br>But I guess being alone is better than being with a useless person.