How should I look at my life in 10 years if I sleep through my life to achieve my long term goals?

I'm a recent college graduate and I kind of was at a loss for what I wanted my life to look like. I've always been someone who sacrifices my needs for people around me and that's left me neglecting personal goals, self improvement and generally living my life to the fullest. I've been unemployed for 3 months and I've been using that time to figure out what I truly want ever since. <br><br>I've recently realized that what I really want the most is to have a fulfilling life for myself, experience things, learn things, see the world, have a family, my own cozy home, to grow as a person etc. I want to live the way I want to live and experience life. <br><br>The main catch is, my family, my parents and my sister are all pretty poor to break even middle class and I feel responsible to help them out. I grew up working since I was 15, my dad passed away at 16 and I've just been responsible to help my family ever since. The thought of paying rent and bills is *terrifying* to me and I've been worried that I would keep living for others at the expense of my own happiness and life. <br><br>So I've come to the realization that I want to do whatever I need to do now to improve my financial situation and improve my career and make my life stable and successful so that *in the future* I can live the life I want. I want to keep building wealth, improve my career to be as financially stable as I can for myself and for my family and kind of experience life and enjoy my youth as much as I can at the same time. <br><br>But here's the catch: I am afraid that doing this will make me sleep walk through my life for the next 10+ years and by the time I will have achieved my goals and have *finally* have the means to do what I want, live where I want, experience what I want and generally be able to live a life my own, I will have sacrificed my early adult years for my family at the expense of my youth and early adult years. <br><br>I know this was the same way for my parents, *they* were in a similar position, they were granted the opportunity to live for themselves when I and my sister were both out of the house, but my sister's currently disabled, working with a disability and has no idea what kind of life she wants for herself, and I don't want to have to make my parents wait another 10 years to live for themselves and I don't want them to wait even longer *for me* to live my own life at the expense of my family. <br><br>I'm 22 now, I'm expecting a job offer for a job I kind of sort of want but I am applying for other jobs and I am desperate to get whatever job I can for the experience and to gain skills for a different career if I end up not liking this one. But I am afraid that doing this, building wealth, gaining skills, etc, will lead to me sleeping through my life and I'll be just going through the motions and not truly experiencing life. Even worse, I'll get older and older, and by the time I actually do have the means to achieve my goals and live the life I want ( granted this is in 15 years, and I *might* be at the cusp of turning 40 at the end of this) I'll have deemed myself too old to enjoy the things I want to enjoy and will look at my life at the age of 37 or 40 and look back at my life and realize I've spent the last 20 years of my life solely for the purpose of building wealth and career and the kind of life I wanted and sacrificed the life I wanted to live for the sake of my family and building wealth at the expense of my own happiness and life. <br><br>So how should I look at my life in a decade or more if I am applying for a career and sleep walking through my life for the next 15-20+ years to achieve long term goals and gain financial stability and experience life my own, granted I do end up having the means to do so at all?