a lot of people in this sub need to go to therapy

first off, i am an incel, but i got therapy and i am much better for it. i am still an incel, but my life is better. so before i get down voted to oblivion, i would say give this post a chance.<br><br>i am not a therapist, but i play one on reddit. i have been an incel for what, about 8 months or so now. i have been to therapy, and it has helped me immensely. i can see how some of you would be afraid, or skeptical to go to therapy, but trust me, it is worth it. there are many reasons why it is worth it, and ill try to explain them below.<br><br>1. you will feel better. therapy can help you go through your problems, and find ways to help you feel better. now saying you will "feel better" is very vague, and different therapists may have different ways to get you there. mine made me write down all the things that were wrong in my life, and then i had to go over them one by one. this helped me get my mind off of my loneliness (it was very mildly severe), and get my mind on other topics. it also made me feel like my therapist was a friend (it's a technique called mirroring, very smart woman), and i didn't feel so alone. in the end, it made me feel better, which i thought wasn't possible.<br><br>2. it may help you get out of your house (which is a big problem for a lot of incels), and actually socialize. i know, i hate people too (or at least i did), they are shitty and mean, and hurtful, and i'm sure we've all had bad experiences with people. so going to therapy may seem counter intuitive, but trust me, it's not. therapists are trained to help people, not hurt them, and i'm sure most of them want to help. it's actually a very nice feeling when someone is genuinely trying to help you, and i'm sure all of you could use an extra friend. also, my therapist gave me "homework", which is an assignment to do when not with her. for example, my first homework was to go to Walmart (or Target, or whatever), and just work on making small talk with people. i didn't even have to buy anything, i just had to go in, and talk to people. i didn't even have to get a conversation started. i didn't have to approach anyone, i just had to say hello when a cashier scanned my (fake) items. this exercise helped me get my confidence up, and now i can talk to people without freaking out. i know i'm not the most talkative person, and i am still awkward when talking to strangers, but i can at least talk to them (and them to me). <br><br>3. it can help you be less angry at people. now a lot of incels (including me), hate people. or at least we hate how people have treated us. but with therapy, it can help take some of that anger off. not saying you will never be angry, or you will never hate people, but it can make it easier to bear. and that's what matters, right? making our lives easier to live? therapy helps with that. it doesn't fix everything, but it makes it easier to bear.<br><br>4. and finally, it can help you find a job. this is something that i am actually about to do. my therapist said she could help me get a job, and i thought she was being ridiculous. how could a therapist help me get a job? but actually, what she said made a lot of sense. she said that she could help me find what i want to do in life, what my hobbies are, what i want to work towards, and what i want to be. she said she could help me make a list of all the things i am good at, and what i am passionate about, and she said all of those things combined (what you are good at, what you want to do, what you want to be, ect) can help you figure out a career path. this is something that i am actually working on right now, and it is incredibly easy (with her help). she has helped me think of things that i never would have thought of on my own, things that are so obvious in hindsight, but aren't so obvious when you are alone. <br><br>like i said, i am still an incel, but my life is much better than it was before. i am in school, and i'm working on a career path. i'm trying to find a job, and i'm about to start running an online Dungeons and Dragons campaign. i know none of these things seem like accomplishments, but to me, they are. and all of these things were made possible because of therapy.