Do you help students get back on task with gentle reminders, or is it to-the-letter, by-the-book confrontation?

There's a student who has been being very difficult in our classroom lately. Frequently chatting, helping other students on assignments, disrupting the class to try and get more one-on-one time with our teacher. <br><br>This student is only 8 years old. They've been diagnosed with what is considered a severe mental disability that is making it difficult for them to keep their room organized, follow instructions, etc. <br><br>They have an aide with them at all times to help them navigate these issues. <br><br>The teacher has been very firm in sticking to a confrontation protocol for dealing with disruptions. She's firm, but not mean, and has the student stop whatever they're doing and go back to their seat. Sometimes she'll give a verbal reminder, like, "I'm giving you a reminder: you need to be working on your assignment." <br><br>The aide disagrees with this method and thinks that the confrontation is setting the student back even further. She's tried gently reminding the student with statements like, "You're doing a really great job. It's time to stop chatting now so you can finish your work." <br><br>The teacher is frustrated that what she's been doing is now being undermined by the aide, who does not have the same experience she does. <br><br>What do you think?