My bf(28M) won’t make an effort for my birthday(23F)

My bf(28) and I(23) have been dating for 3 years. He is not good at making plans or coming up with ideas for dates. This doesn’t really bother me that much because I enjoy coming up with things to do. <br><br>My birthday is in 2 weeks and I’ve mentioned it a few times. I suggested we plan a trip for my birthday and he seemed on board, but hasn’t really brought it up again. Because of this I decided to start looking myself, and I found a really nice Airbnb that was available for the weekend closest to my birthday. I told him about it and he said it was a good idea. That was almost 3 weeks ago and he hasn’t made any of the reservations or plans that go along with this trip. <br><br>At this point, I feel like I have already done all of the planning for the trip and if I want anything to be done I will have to do it myself. I am worried that if I don’t make the reservations then he won’t and we will lose out on the Airbnb. I’m feeling a little frustrated because it’s my birthday and I want to feel special. It feels like he doesn’t care about the quality of the trip I have for my birthday or that he thinks I’m just going to do all the work. <br><br>What should I do? I can go ahead and make the reservations, I can wait for him to do it, I can change the plans for the trip in some way, or I can give him an ultimatum. What would be the best option?<br><br>Update: <br>I waited until yesterday because we were going to go out to dinner for his mom’s birthday and I wanted to make sure I didn’t ruin that. He was making the reservations for the restaurant and so I told him I would take care of the alcohol for the dinner. I said this to try to get him to see that he needed to hire someone to make the alcohol for the trip. He said that I didn’t need to do that because he could hire someone. I replied that if he hired someone then I would too, but if he didn’t I was going to have to. He said that he thought we already hired a mixologist but that he would check. Throughout the time we were at dinner, he kept saying he was going to check about the alcohol for the trip but he never did. Once we got home I told him that he doesn’t seem to care about the quality of the trip. He said that he didn’t really care because it wasn’t his birthday and that he was just happy to celebrate my birthday. I went on to say that I thought he was being selfish and I would like it if he made more of an effort for my birthday. He told me that he was done with the conversation. He was very quiet for the rest of the night. <br><br>This morning he had already left for work when I woke up. In my bag there were printouts of all the details for our trip. There was a list of the places we would go, the reservations we made, and the itinerary. He also put a note in my bag that said, “Surprise! Now you don’t have to worry about it anymore”.<br><br><br>TL;DR: <br>My bf isn’t making any plans or putting in any effort for my upcoming birthday. I am starting to think he doesn’t care about it. I don’t know what I should do to resolve the issue.