Husband (40m) wants his ex-wife’s name tattooed on him to honor their deceased child. I (38f) am not okay with this.

I (38f) have been married to my husband (40m) for nine years now. We have two children of our own, but he also has a bio daughter (now 7) from his previous marriage. His ex-wife passed away shortly after their child’s birth, and his mother helped him cope with the loss and raise their child for a couple of years until he met me.<br><br>When their child was born, my husband got a tattoo on his arm with his daughter’s name and birthdate to always remember his ex-wife. I was okay with it and thought it was a sweet gesture. However, he now wants to get another tattoo with only her first name on his chest. I expressed my discomfort with this, but he insists it’s to honor their child and wants me to understand.<br><br>I fear this tattoo may be seen as disrespectful and inappropriate, and I don't want any ill feelings between us. I want to talk to him about it, but I'm not sure where to start or how to approach the situation.<br><br>How do I express my concerns about this tattoo respectfully, and what are the potential consequences of getting such a tattoo in our relationship?<br><br>UPDATE: I talked things through with my husband. He says he doesn't want to get the tattoo anymore and wants us to get matching tattoos on our left chest with both kids names on it and maybe our wedding date and something small to remember his ex-wife and I agreed to it. He was very understanding.