sooo people dont hate the idea of an incel unless theyre from chambers

Any person I talk to in real life just says "oh I cant relate since Im in a relationship" or "so people dont put too much stock in relationships" and people dont hate the idea of incels unless theyre from reddit. They dont get straight up mad at me like redditors do often, even though people are often more judgemental in person. The chambers hivemind is not representative of reality, thankfully. I guess people are just more mature and dont say anything straight up offensive to peoples faces in real life lol