The Other side of the grass isn’t always perfect

Yesterday, I started a cleaning/simplification project that made me realize the other side of the grass isn’t always perfect. Here’s my story.<br><br>I’m a 26 single woman, a college student. I have two kids and I work full time. The struggle is real.<br><br>But I have a “friend” who has inspired me to think different about life, family and her family.<br><br>Let’s say her name is Sarah. She is 27, married and a full time mom to her 3 year old baby boy. She has a lovely relationship with her husband and her baby, but she started feeling lonely and bored at home. Sarah decided to go back to school, and she started studying. Sarah started buying self help books because she felt like she wanted to improve her life, but she wasn’t sure what she wanted to do.<br><br>I must say that Sarah has a very wealthy life, her husband makes a lot of money and Sarah doesn’t have to worry about money, so she spends a lot of time and money on buying self help books, taking classes and courses.<br><br>I, on the other hand, I don’t find self help books as useful as Sarah finds them. I don’t have money nor time to buy books and attend seminars. I just find the basics of minimalism on the internet. I read some of the books Sarah read, and I applied the basics of a plastic free life, minimalism, veganism and frugalism.<br><br>I would say that I’m a minimalist, and I really love my way of living, but I have to admit that I felt bad looking at Sarah’s life, because she is “living her dream”.<br><br>I don’t have a husband who loves me a plastic free and minimalist relationship, but I felt bad about my single motherhood.<br><br>I don’t have her relationship, her husband her money, her time or her freedom. I felt like I’m not doing anything right, I’m not living my best life.<br><br>But yesterday, I had to do a deep cleaning of my bathroom. And it is a shared bathroom to all four of us. And I had to clean all the poop left in my bathtub because my kids are too young to be cleaning up after themselves.<br><br>That’s when a truly realized that someone else’s grass is not always greener. I’m not better than her, Sarah is not better than me. I’m a single mother of two little toddlers and she is a stay at home mom, she has a whole career to build as soon as she finishes school. I build my career in a very competitive field in a very unstable economy, and it scares the shit out of me.<br><br>I’ve learned that we’re all living our own lives, and if I don’t like something about my life, it is because I could have done differently in the future. I never have to find reasons to be mad, when it is time to truly move.<br><br>I must say that I’m happier today than yesterday, I feel like I have something to learn from everyone, and I have started to truly find happiness in the little things in life.<br><br>Sorry for the grammatical mistakes if someone finds any, English is not my first language.