TIL that you can literally get kicked out of college for being a “nice guy”

I’m genuinely not even joking, this happened to me at college and I learned that on the wrong side of “not ok” nice guyism can get you extremely fucked up. <br><br>So I met a girl in my psychology 101 class. She was in my notes group and seemed like a friendly girl. I did everything I could to be friendly, I did my fair share of the work in the note group, I was always nice to her, I never did anything to speak of to her.<br><br>Well then I hear from the gossip mill that she is “creeped out by my niceness”. I was like, what the hell? No big deal, it’s just a group project. Then halfway through the semester, I get called to the professors office. She and her other friend had complained about me being too nice and that they felt uncomfortable. The prof sat me down and told me that I was being “too nice” and that I needed to be less friendly. I laughed and said that I wasn’t doing anything, and he said that if I continued to be “overly friendly” he’d have to drop me from the class for “making other people uncomfortable”.<br><br>I was flabbergasted. I went straight to the Dean and told him what had happened and he didn’t even say anything. He just said “well, you need to be less nice then”. I told him that I’d already filed a Title IX complaint and he got pissed and told me that it wouldn’t do shit. I was like “fuck it, ok fine I’ll be a dick”. So I just stopped participating in the notes group, even though I gave my notes dutifully. I stopped showing up to the meetings, I stopped being friendly, I just did the bare minimum. <br><br>Well, I start getting notes slipped under my door asking me why I’m being “mean” and “standoffish” all of a sudden. Fuck off you mean girl bitch. I stopped showing up to those meetings and it didn’t matter because we aced the final project, we got an A+ on it. I ignored both of them for the rest of the semester, we graduated with A’s, and they both thanked me for my “help”.<br><br>I’m telling you gents, being nice in college is seen as an “unsafe space” for women. I’m a nice guy and I was told that my niceness was too much to handle. I learned that if I’m nice, I’m creepy, and if I’m mean, I’m an asshole. So either way, I’m fucked. <br><br>Gents, be careful, we are not safe in this academic environment, and being nice is seen as creepy.