My wife [36F] has gained a lot of weight and I’m [39M] having trouble getting over it

We’ve been married for almost 15 years and up until she got pregnant with our first kid 5 years ago, my wife looked amazing. She’s 5’11” and weighed around 170-180 pounds. She had a very curvy figure, with a small waist, big breasts and a big butt. She used to model when she was younger and this carried on into her 30s. I couldn’t be prouder of her when she would walk out of the bedroom wearing a fitted dress for a night out. She looked amazing in her wedding dress when we got married and she looked amazing when I saw her walking down the aisle toward me. <br><br>Well, after the baby, she just never dropped the baby weight. I’d say she’s around 240 pounds now. I give her credit because she works extremely hard. She works 50 hours a week at her high stress job and is always exhausted when she gets home. She doesn’t have a lot of time for herself, but it’s not like she’s made zero changes. She’s cut out drinking alcohol, joined a gym and hired a trainer. I’m just getting a little worried because despite this, the weight isn’t coming off and at some point we want to have a second child. I know I’m the ass for even caring about this, but I can’t stop myself from missing the hot, beautiful woman I married. I miss her curves. I miss the way she looked in a thong. I miss how she’d get this tan and her skin would look amazing. <br><br>I miss all of this, and it’s just not coming back. I feel guilty even thinking this, because I’m so lucky to have this woman in my life, and I know she’s exactly the same person. I miss the physical intimacy part of our marriage as well. I miss her wearing the sexy nighties to bed, and I miss her going out of her way to be super in character for role playing etc. It’s been years since that’s happened, and I miss her walking up behind me and rubbing my dick and whispering in my ear. I miss so much of our sex life. We still have sex, but it’s a vanilla, traditional affair. We haven’t had sex in public since before our child was born. <br><br>I feel guilty over this, but also feel resentment that I’m over here missing the intimacy I thought we’d have throughout this marriage. I know she’s busy, but it doesn’t help that she’s gained a lot of weight and I’m sure she doesn’t feel attractive. I’d love to just sit and talk this through with her, but I know she’s going to get upset when I bring it up. I’d like to find a way to express this all to her in a sensitive manner, because I’m getting to the point where I have to do something and I don’t want to be the husband who’s cheating on his wife because she doesn’t look like she used to. How do I start this conversation?