UPDATE: i think my friend (22F) is lying about what happened to her brother. i (22F) am so confused and worried

the original post was less about whether i should continue to be her friend, and more about understanding why she'd lie like that, and how to approach it.<br><br>i didn't really get any concrete advice so i had to go with my gut.<br><br>i texted her and asked her what i could do to help with the whole funeral, i offered to make some of the food and i said i was thinking of getting her a card.<br><br>she called me a couple of hours later and said i didn't have to do any of that, i asked her why she lied about her brother and she broke down - she said she'd been having this weird feeling for a while i.e. that something big and bad was going to happen, and this day that i referenced in my other post happened and she felt so ridiculously bad and then a couple of days later her fear just came to a head and she felt like she was going crazy and her anxiety kicked in and she just sort of blurted it out.<br><br>she did elaborate a bit more about a couple of things, but what i got from it was that she'd been feeling this pressure and a desire to lie and her mental health has been suffering a lot for a while and she'd been feeling really low and she wanted something to deal with, i guess.<br><br>she said her mental health has been going downhill for weeks before the whole thing and that it just coincided with her new lie.<br><br>i listened to her and i feel stupid, i feel like i was so gullible and i could see the signs and i didn't push her on it, i didn't do more to help her and now i just want to help her but i feel so dumb, you know?<br><br>what's worse is that every time i think about her, i feel sick to my stomach, i feel like i've been blind-sided but what i didn't see was my friend struggling and i feel like i'm better than this, i feel like i'm a bad friend.<br><br>i don't even know how to feel about it, i've never known anyone that does this before so i feel i bit like i've been punched in the chest a couple of times and i feel so confused.<br><br>TFW no advice is very helpful.