How do I (30f) tell my husband (30m) to do chores even though he has a hard time remembering things?

I am overwhelmed and need some help. <br>I’m not sure how to approach this situation. <br>I ran into some issues as a kid and have had some traumatic experiences. My parents never made me do chores. It was a nice thing for me as a kid, but now I’m paying for it. I find chores to be really hard and I’m not good at them. I have gotten better as an adult but I still struggle. <br>My husband is my first long term relationship. We grew up in different environments. His parents had him do chores and stuff. For the most part I’m happy that he’s not lazy and cleans up after himself. It makes my life easier. <br>We have a cat. I’m seriously allergic to them and I never wanted a pet. But my husband grew up with pets and really wanted one. I’m pretty ok with it. I just wish our cat could clean itself. It’s not that bad. <br><br>My husband has some issues as well. He had something happen to him as a kid and has a hard time remembering things. He does tricks to help him remember. He’s gotten better since we’ve moved in together. It’s still a problem. For example, he usually makes himself a smoothie every morning. He will put the cup in the dishwasher and then put the smoothie in a different cup and throw the dishwasher cup away. <br>He will also do things like make himself food and then completely forget about it. <br>He goes to therapy and is working on it. <br>I don’t want to make his life harder but with the cat and the pandemic and moving into a new house, it’s just getting crazy. <br>I’m not even complaining about the typical stuff like dirty socks. <br>He will leave a dirty knife in the garage. He will put dirty dishes outside. He will put food in the cat’s water bowl and leave it on the floor. <br>I don’t know how to approach this with him without sounding like a bitch. I love him and am happy to help him. I don’t want to make him feel bad for something that isn’t his fault. <br>Does anyone know how to approach this? It’s just getting too hard. <br>TLDR: How to I get my husband to remember to do chores without making him feel like he’s failing at something he can’t control?