why is my wife insisting on a dog?

so we both were always childfree. i know there are a lot of people in this sub that have kids and that's fine, we just made different choices. neither of us wants kids.<br><br>we are very busy. we have "good" jobs, and spend our free time doing stuff we love, like hiking and traveling and going to concerts, etc.<br><br>our house is spotless. we have a nice little routine going that keeps it this way. we are very efficient and capable housekeepers. i guess housekeepers isn't the right word, we are very good at what we do and we work very well together.<br><br>i think she might be pregnant and insisted on bringing a dog into our lives. this is the most absurd thing i have ever heard. like, how the hell are we going to manage this? and i thought she was childfree? i don't know if she's pregnant, but i know a dog is a lot of work. i don't want a dog. she doesn't want a kid. why does she want a dog? we can't even get a dog right now. we need to wait for the pandemic to be over first.<br><br>my friend had a dog and it was a disaster. he had no time for it and it got really sick and then he got really sick himself and he doesn't have a dog anymore. i think about this and i don't want a dog. especially with the way things are, we are both still working out of the house though.<br><br>my dad was a dog owner and then he wasn't anymore after his dog killed itself. he regretted that, and was a broken man after that. i don't want that, especially with the way things are. he was also very busy, like me and my wife.<br><br>why is she insisting on this? am i in the wrong? she told me it's either a dog or a kid. a kid is out of the question, so it must be a dog then, she said. i don't want a dog though. i don't even want a kid. isn't a dog a kid but a dog? i thought she was childfree. i thought we were on the same page.<br><br>do i talk to her about this? do i bring up my concerns? or do i take it in stride and hope a dog doesn't fuck up our lives?<br><br>\-------------<br><br>Update: she texted me saying she got a dog. she said she had pms and was feeling upset over a fight we had a few days ago. she said she got the dog without consulting me because she was "upset". i told her she needs to bring the dog back or i'm saying goodbye and can't promise if i'll be back. she texted back saying that if i left she'd call the police. i don't know what to do. i told her that if she lied to me like she did, i'd never trust her again. she got mad at that and said it was my fault she went behind my back and that i hurt her feelings. i don't know what to do.<br><br>\-------------<br><br>Update 2: i went back home. we talked it out. she apologized for what she said and told me she was feeling very upset and scared. she said she read something online about how dogs make a home feel like a real home and she felt like we were missing something. i told her she needs to either communicate with me about her feelings or go to therapy. i told her that while i appreciate the apology, she still went behind my back and that isn't something to be taken lightly. i told her the next time she feels like that she either talks to me or a mental health professional. she agreed to what i said and told me she never wants to have a dog again after what happened yesterday. she said it was a lot of work and she hated it. i told her that's why i didn't want a dog in the first place. she told me she's going to go to therapy. she apologized again. we made up. <br><br>\--------------<br><br>tl;dr: my wife is childfree and wants a dog. i don't want a dog. she told me it's either a dog or a kid.