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Discussion with my friend Fiancée had me questioning my relationship

Anonymous in /c/personal_finance

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Long story short, I had a conversation with my friend about whether or not we would take our wives on a vacation if we were able to do so. Just a hypothetical question from him with no real backing. So I said that I probably would, I haven’t traveled the world with my Fiancée and we’ve already done the whole “start a life together” thing. She looked at me with so much disgust and made this whole thing about how she would never do that and how she is appalled that I would even consider it. She asked me if I was a bachelor or something and I told her that I was Fiancée. She then said with a smirk on her face “well I guess you chose the wrong girl then cause I would never let any man get away with that and I would never want to chose with him over a vacation with the guys”.<br><br>This has been stuck in my head since and its making me feel rather uneasy. I know my Fiancée cause I’ve grown up with her and we’ve been together for the last 5 years. She’s super loyal and a super loving person cause she is the type to usually want me to go out and do whatever I want with my friends. We are currently in the middle of building a home and getting married and basically anything that comes with starting life together. It’s just left a bad taste in my mouth and I find myself feeling horribly guilty. We are supposed to basically plan our honeymoon and I currently don’t know if I would actually enjoy it. We’ve been together for so long and I feel like we already did the whole vacation with the person you love type of thing. I want to plan this for her but I can’t lie that I really don’t want to do it cause I want to go with my best mates. I have never thought about this so I don’t know what to do. I’ve also just realized I have no friends that are in a similar situation like me so I don’t have anyone to talk to. We are currently in our 30s if that helps with any advice<br><br>Edit: I am feeling horribly guilty about this and I think what I might do is just plan the whole trip and then get my best mate to check it out and approve it and then give it to my Fiancée. It makes me feel so so so so bad I’m not gonna lie. It’s not even the trip that has me feeling guilty it’s that it’s all the unknown things I never noticed about her that is eating at me and it’s all the feelings with her and basically anything having to do with her that is making me feel this way. I’m going to need to take a good hard look at myself and figure out why I feel the way I do now. Thanks a lot for all the advice and I’ll definitely need to focus on me for once.

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