I just found out that I have a son.

I just found out that I have a son, and I’m just in total shock and loss of words. I’m in disbelief. I’m 21 and was told last night by my ex that she had a kid and that kid is mine. I had no idea I was a dad. We were together for 4 years and I never even found out that she had a kid. I’m in shock. I’m just trying to stay in disbelief. I don’t know what to do. My ex and I broke up 3 years ago and I never had any idea she was pregnant. My life has been turned upside down and I’m trying to wrap my head around it all. I don’t know how old he is but my ex said that he’s in school now. I’m going crazy with all the thoughts and feelings that I’m feeling. I don’t know if I’m ready to be a dad. I’m still trying to stay in disbelief. I’m expecting a call from my ex later today where I can explain that I had no idea that I was a dad until now and that I don’t know if I’m ready to be a dad. I’m going to ask her to do a DNA test to confirm that I’m the dad and to see how old he is. I’m feeling like I’m stuck in a bad dream and I’m just trying to see this thru. I have no idea what I’m in for. My ex and I weren’t on good terms and we didn’t end things on a good note. I’m going to be honest and tell her that I’m not ready to be a dad. I don’t know how I’m going to see this thru. I’m expecting the worse at this point.