I grew up thinking I was gonna find a nice girl and have a happy marriage and kids. Instead I'm a 35 year old bachelor with no hope.

I grew up in a somewhat strict Christian household. I was taught to work hard, be honest, respectful, courteous, and considerate. I was taught to be chivalrous. I was taught that if I treated a woman nice she would appreciate me and love me. I spent my entire childhood believing that if I followed the rules I'd have a happy life. <br><br>I put myself through college, spent years developing a career, have a good job, I own many nice things and have a lot of money saved up. I've always been loyal and dedicated to the people I consider friends, I've sacrificed for them and have gone to great lengths to ensure those I care about are safe and happy. I've always gone out of my way to hold the door for women and girls, I've always stood up when a lady or elderly person enters the room, I've always pulled out the chair for my date, I spent an entire weekend driving 250 miles to help a girl get her horse out of a mud pit. <br><br>I've been taken advantage of, lied to, manipulated, used, and discarded. I've been told I'm not good enough. I've been cheated on. I've spent my entire life thinking I'll meet the girl of my dreams, fall in love, and live happily ever after. Instead I've learned many uncomfortable truths. <br><br>Women don't want a nice guy. They want to be treated like whores. They want to be degraded, they want rough sex, they want to be used. If you're nice to them you're weak. If you're considerate of their feelings you're a loser. I've been stood up, I've been ignored, I've been ghosted. I've been told I'm a "nice guy" like it's a bad thing. I've been called a loser and a nerd. I've spent my entire life thinking that if I treated women nicely they'd treat me nicely in return. I've spent my entire life thinking that if I worked hard I'd be rewarded.<br><br>Instead I worked myself to the brink of death for a woman that was fucking around on me the entire time. I spent my entire life thinking that being honest and direct was important. Instead I've been told over and over and over again that "I'm not her type". Instead I've been told I'm too short, I'm too skinny, I'm too fat, I'm too ugly, I'm too nerdy. I've been rejected countless times by women who I thought were within my league. I've been rejected countless times for things I have no control over. I've been rejected countless times for many things I can never change. I'll always be too short. I'll always be too ugly. I'll always be nerdy.<br><br>When I was a kid I used to think I was just bad with girls. I used to think that if I tried harder I could impress them. I used to think that if I just shook off the anxiety and nervousness I could make a connection with them. I used to think that if I was just better I could find a girlfriend. I didn't realize until much later in life that it wasn't me, it's them. I'll never be good enough. No matter how hard I try, I'll always lose. No matter how good I look, no matter how much money I make, no matter how big my muscles are, I'll always be worthless. I'll always be a loser. <br><br>I grew up thinking I was gonna have a happy marriage, a happy family, a happy career, and a happy life. Instead I'm a lonely, childless, 35 year old bachelor with no hope. I've learned too many uncomfortable truths. I've realized too many things too late in life. I've spent my entire life thinking I could get the girl. I've spent my entire life thinking I was good enough. I've spent my entire life thinking that if I tried harder and worked harder I could have the life I wanted. <br><br>It's not me, it's them. And if you're a young boy or man reading this, it's not you, it's them.