Is it okay to not want to befriend people with kids?

I have a really good friend who recently got married, and I know he and his wife are thinking of starting a family soon. I have a really good time with him, but he isn’t a lead role in my friend circle in the way that some of my friends have known me since I was a toddler. I met him a little bit later in life and while I really do like him, I really do not want to have kids. I don’t dislike them either, I just don’t want them.<br><br>I know when he does have kids, that will become a big part of his life, and I know he really wants to be involved and a good dad. It’s my opinion that good parents can’t really be as good of a friend as they want to be. I know I can’t really keep up with my mom who is over 50 and I’m 28, when she and her friends get together, it’s an 8 hour dinner.<br><br>I’m not complaining that my friends with kids either. I like hanging with them, but it’s in passing. I work 8-5 and I’m usually not home until 6 or later so I don’t really have time to be a reliable friend to him, especially when he’s a dad. I don’t have a family of my own and I just don’t think that it’s a good idea for me to be passing in and out of his life when he does have kids. I think I can be a good friend to him, before that, but I’m just not sure I want to be a bad friend like I feel I am to some of my friends who lead really busy lives and I’m busy too and met up a few times but they were always like “oh when do you have time” and I’m like “I don’t know”. I feel really bad about that.<br><br>So I was thinking, I’m not hating on you or anything, I’m just not gonna be there for you. I’m busy too but I don’t have all of those responsibilities. I’m busy because I’m a busy person but it’s not the same. I think I can be a good friend to him but not a mom.<br><br>TL;DR: So I was thinking, I’m not hating on you or anything, I’m just not gonna be there for you. I’m busy too but I don’t have all of those responsibilities. I’m busy because I’m a busy person but it’s not the same.