I (28f) am struggling to cope with my husband’s (28M) mental health

My husband is the most amazing person, he has no malicious bones in his body. He is the kindest person I have ever met, very smart and makes me laugh more than anyone else. Although the last couple of years he has been suffering with depression. He sleeps in a lot, and I have to get him up for work every single day. He doesn’t even look after himself anymore, showering is such a struggle for him. <br><br>I’ve been the one looking after him for the past two years. I have a lot of stress at work and I hope he would look after me and help me but he doesn’t. I have lost count on how many times I’ve cooked a meal and he doesn’t even look after himself. <br><br>I’ve been the one looking after him for the past two years. I have a lot of stress at work and I hope he would look after me and help me but he doesn’t. I have lost count on how many times I’ve cooked a meal and he doesn’t even touch it. He will eat but he will leave a full plate of food and go to bed. I’m such a tidy person and hate mess and I feel like my whole life is a mess and I’ve lost myself. I feel like the only thing in my life I can control is how tidy the house is. <br><br>I get so angry at him and I’ve started taking matters into my own hands. I’ve started waking him up at 630 the last two weeks (it’s usually 730-8 before I get him up) and if he doesn’t get up I turn his alarm off and walk away. I’ve even left for work without him and go back home before he wakes up to tidy up the house. <br><br>This may sound horrible and I know it. But I’ve started throwing away his food when he doesn’t eat it and cutting up his big cloths after he’s asked me to already and then doesn’t do it for weeks. I get so angry at him and I don’t know how to cope the best. <br><br>I understand he needs help and I have tried and I get less angry the more I remove myself from the situation. But it feels like I already live alone, and we are just flatmates. I don’t know if I can stay with him but I love him so much and I don’t want to leave him. <br><br>What do I do?