My wife gave birth to a (biracial)baby that clearly isn't mine and I'm divorcing her. But I'm worried about the relationship I'll have with my 2 year old daughter who is biracial as well and clearly my child.

I (38M) met my wife (34F) 4 years ago. We got married within the first year of dating and it seemed like the fairytale, ready to ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. My wife had asked for an open relationship before which I refused and it seemed to be the right decision. <br><br>Before marrying my wife I had never had sex without a condom. She was the first woman I went bare with and to be quite frank, it was worth holding out for that. We made love all the time and I loved the closeness it brought us. My wife always made me feel loved and I her. We had a baby girl together after a year of marriage, and, as you can guess by the title of this post she is clearly mixed. I am white, my wife is black. <br><br>So our little girl is 2 years old now. She's the apple of my eye and there is nothing I wouldn't do for her. She takes after me a lot, green eyes, curly black hair and tan skin and is just overall beautiful. She's well aware of what's going on and knows that mommy and daddy won't be together anymore and there'll be a new baby in the house soon to be part of our family. <br><br>My wife gave birth to a baby boy 2 weeks ago, and he is definitely not mine. I didn't even have to look to know he wasn't mine. He came out fair skinned with blonde hair, not a single sign of being mixed anywhere on his body. I felt heartbroken but I did my part as a decent human being and held it together for my wife and held her after she pushed the baby out. I remember her sobbing in my arms saying she was sorry and she didn't mean to do it, and I played the assuring part, assuring her that everything would be okay and that it would be a beautiful little boy and we'd get through it together. I loved this woman more than anyone else in this world and seeing her so broken hurt me more than anything.<br><br>I'm working on the divorce, it's a long process but my lawyer said it's going well. I'm sleeping on the couch right now and I've been spending a lot of time with my daughter. The other day it hit me though, I paused and thought about the dynamic between my daughter and I going forward. She has blonde hair and a fair complexion, but is 100% mixed. She is my child. Will she feel like I'm mad at her, will she know why her parents aren't together? What if she assumes it's because of her? She's two and is just beginning to grasp the concept of color and race and I don't want her to feel as if it's her fault that her parents aren't together. What if she feels like it's because she's mixed and her little brother isn't? I plan on being involved in both kids lives, but I want to make sure my daughter knows that she's my baby girl, my first and forever love.<br><br>EDIT: this was a cathartic post for me and I'm glad I got to share this. I have a good idea of what I need to do now. Thank you all, I appreciate all your support. I'll make sure to update you all in the future, as many of you have requested.