I am a woman and my ex's dad is the first person in my life who spoke up for me.

I'm 27, apparently late bloomer, but I didn't realize I'm a "black-pilled" woman in the male sense. <br><br>I don't want to go too much into the story, but I got out of a 10 year long relationship with a guy I was engaged to. I was the one who initiated the split because I found the messages he exchanged with his long time friend and ex. I don't want to blame anyone because the relationship is over and that's what matters. <br><br>I have been in great pain though. I have also been doing some self-reflection and in all honesty, I've never really dealt with the fact that the relationship wasn't the way I wanted it to be. So I avoided it. I also didn't have much support. I didn't want to hurt my ex or his family. They're all nice people and I don't want to see them hurting. <br><br>Last week I finally spoke up and I wanted him to let me go. I wanted him to let me go and move on, and at that moment I realized that I haven't let myself go. I've always been in pain because he was never there for me. For the first time I spoke up and I dealt with him and I wanted him to let me go and I want to do the same. I didn't want to grow old with him though. I didn't want to look back and realize I wasted my life. I'd be in my 40s and I would be angry at myself. I didn't want to do that. I told him that I'd rather die than be married to him. That hurt him so much and I didn't want to hurt him. I didn't want him to be in pain. I just wanted him to let me go and move on. <br><br>I also dealt with him in person and I didn't want to hurt him. I didn't want to see him in pain. But I wanted him to let me go and I wanted to do the same. <br><br>It took me a long time, but I finally spoke up for myself and let myself go. And I'm so happy for it. I've never felt better. <br><br>I also decided to make some changes in my life because I'm single now and I have a chance to do that. I haven't seen my ex's family or friends for months. He didn't want them to know and I didn't want to hurt him. I didn't want to see him in pain. But I realized that I need to get back to my life and finally, I wanted to do that. <br><br>So I got in contact with my ex's dad and told him that I'm not engaged anymore. And he wanted to meet me somewhere. And I met him and it was the first time I've ever met him in person. I was pleasantly surprised. He checked on me and asked me how I'm doing and he let me talk. He didn't interrupt me and he took the time to listen to me. And I don't know if it was because I haven't had any support in so long, but for the first time someone really listened to me and acknowledged me. <br><br>He also told me that he wasn't really fond of the idea of me marrying his son. He told me that he didn't really think we were a good match. And I've never heard that from anyone. I've never heard that. I've always heard that we're a good match, that we're compatible, and that we have so much in common. I've always heard that we were a good match. But he told me that we werent and he was right. I know that now. It took me 10 years to realize that. But he saw it. He was the only person who saw it, who saw me. I didn't know that though. I didn't realize that. And he was the only person who saw me. <br><br>And I'm so grateful that he did. Because now I'm finally free. I don't have to spend the rest of my life in pain and unhappy. I don't have to do that. And I'm so happy for it. <br><br>I don't even know if he knows how much what he said means to me. But it means a lot to me. His words are the first words that have ever made me feel like I'm finally free. I'm finally free from all the pain and unhappiness I've been carrying around for 10 years. I'm finally free. I don't know if he knows how much his words mean to me. But they mean a lot to me. They also give me the motivation to keep moving forward. <br><br>That's why I'm also grateful. Because he gives me the motivation to keep moving forward. To keep doing what I love. I'm doing that now and I have never felt better. I'm doing what I love and I don't have to hide it. I can do it openly and honestly, without fear of judgment. I don't have to be afraid. I don't have to be afraid of what other people think. I can be myself. I can be open and honest without fear. And it feels amazing. <br><br>I don't even know if I could thank him enough for that. I don't even know if I could say thank you enough. I don't even know if I could thank him enough. I don't even know if I could say that enough. But I want to. I want to say thank you. I want to let him know how much he means to me. How much his words mean to me. And that's what I want to do. I want to thank him and let him know how much he means to me. <br><br>I hope I can do that. I don't want to keep it to myself. I don't want to hide it. I want to let him know. <br><br>I hope I can do that.