I knew 2 weeks ago, but now I’m sure

My husband and I have been married for 7 years, but we got together in high school. So we’ve been together for 17 years. We’ve always shared 100% of the things. Before marriage we had shared an account for our finances. <br><br>Little over a year ago we started to have a little financial issues. Before that I always kept our finances, and I always had everything in order. I was the one who paid our bills, charges, and so on. But little over a year ago, we had one month where I didn’t have enough money to pay things. Because my husband got a job far away, so he needed to rent a place to live in. We had to open an extra account to pay his things, because I always invested our money in short term things, so the money wasn’t liquid. <br><br>Because of it, I was in charge of 2 accounts, and we started to have some problems. He got mad at me because I said that he was spending too much money, and I showed him the accounts to prove it. Then he said I was being stingy, and things like that. But I’m the one who always gave him money when he needed it. He had a lot more money than I had.<br><br>After my sister in law had her baby, he became super protective of me. He told me I was the most important person in the world, that I was very strong, and that he didn’t want me to have a baby because it was too much for me. Now I see it as him guilt-tripping me.<br><br>I work a lot, 12 hours a day from Monday to Friday. But I didn’t feel tired. I can do a lot of things. And I thought he was being sweet to me. I always thought he was childfree like me, because he always said it. <br><br>But 2 weeks ago, I was talking with my best friend, and she told me that her Husband was upset because she and her son (2) were sick and he was stuck at home working, and my husband said “I always knew that having a baby was a bad idea”. So he said to me “I knew you weren’t able to have a baby, so I didn’t bring it up”. I knew 2 weeks ago, but today I’m sure he was always lying to me. Before marriage he knew how important it was for me to not have kids, so he would never bring it up. But he would never fight for it.