My (18f) dad (39m) wants me to stop getting waxed because it makes my mom (37f) sad.

My dad is Italian and my mom is German. They don't speak each other's languages but they make it work. They both do things that the other culture finds weird. For example my dad thinks it's okay to walk into the bathroom while the other person is showering (he doesn't do this to me - I have my own bathroom) and I do things that are considered impolite in Italy, like eating on the go or burping after a meal. It's not like we're trying to make the other person angry, we just grew up in different places and have different customs. Like, I don't care that my dad does something that the German people consider rude. <br><br>Now on to the problem: <br><br>My mom doesn't like body hair. Everybody has to shave everywhere and she prefers to get waxes. She waxes her arms and legs and even shaves her head (she has short hair anyway). The vibe in our house is kind of like "shave it or die". My dad loves her for who she is and she loves him for who he is. He doesn't care about her lack of hair anywhere - after all he does the same - and he also doesn't care that he grew up in a different culture than her and that he has different customs. <br><br>So the problem is me. I don't like getting waxed. I have very thick dark hair on my arms and legs and when I wax, it hurts and the hair grows back thicker and darker. My mom has very thin, fair hair everywhere so it doesn't hurt her as much and it's not noticeable when it grows back. I also don't like shaving because it makes my skin itch and I get ingrown hairs. But if I have to choose between getting waxed and shaving, I'd choose shaving. My mom however, does not want me to do either. Every time I ask her to get a wax she agrees, but she always makes a face and acts like "must I?" And if I ask my dad to take me to get a wax he doesn't want to - he says it hurts and he doesn't like it. But I do ask him because he doesn't act like "must I?" When I ask him. <br><br>So the other day my dad took me to get waxed and my mom was there as well. My mom said I should get my arms waxed and I said no, I want to get my legs waxed. My mom said "but your arms are so hairy" and I said "yeah I want to keep it that way." My dad agreed with me and said that as long as I'm happy that's all that matters, so we got my legs waxed. <br><br>In the car on the way home my mom was very quiet. When we got home she went to her room and didn't come out for the rest of the night. <br><br>The next day she was preparing breakfast and my dad came into the room. He was wearing a sleeveless shirt and had shaved arms. My mom looked at him and sobbed. I was shocked because I've never seen her cry - not even when I got my septum pierced. My dad tried to hug her and asked her what was wrong but she just kept crying. He hugged me and asked me if I knew what was wrong with her and I said I didn't know. <br><br>Later that day she was calmer and she sat my dad and I down. She asked my dad if he was going to let me continue getting hairy and my dad said of course. He said "just because you don't like hair doesn't mean we can't have hair." And my mom said "but it's just hair, who cares." And my dad said "I care. I have hair and I'm proud of it." My mom said "I don't have hair so neither should our daughter." My dad said "our daughter can do what she wants." My mom said she was gonna cry again so my dad and I left. <br><br>My dad started crying after we left the dining room. He said he never wanted to make my mom cry and he didn't know she cared this much. I told him he didn't make my mom cry, I did, and that he shouldn't care about her tears because she was being unreasonable and asking me to do something I didn't want to do. He agreed with me. <br><br>But now my mom won't talk to either of us. So should I get my arms waxed???