My wife (34f) couldn't make lunch for our kids (3f 5 weeks), I (28m) did. Now she's mad
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**This is a bit long, I apologize.**<br><br>At 28 I married the love of my life, literally on the love of my life. I married her when I was 24 and she was 30. She's the best thing ever.<br><br>But the last few weeks she's been making me feel useless and I really don't know how to handle it. We had our first kid together, a little girl, about 5 weeks ago.<br><br>Before having the baby we decided it would be best if she quit her job to be a stay at home mom. We saved up for 3 years and with the way her old job paid she was able to save up a lot of vacation time which we used to double her savings. I'm not making much but with what we have saved up we can easily make it to a year and maybe a little longer if we started cutting corners. This was her dream, to be a stay at home mom, and I agreed to support her because that's what husbands do.<br><br>Well I happen to work from home most days (I go into the office 2-3 times a week) and the last few weeks she's been complaining that I'm not helping out around the house enough. I thought that was bullshit because I do as much around the house as I can while also working but whatever, I started cleaning more and doing laundry. But she seemed to get more and more angry over it. I thought maybe I wasn't helping enough but my wife does a lot for our kid so I thought it would be rude to complain about my meager contributions.<br><br>I know she's tired and stressed because of the baby and she's also home alone with the baby most of the day but I thought it would be nice if I made lunch for our kids instead of her since I'm at home. I went to the fridge to find something to make and it was almost empty. We keep a lot of Celery and Peanut Butter in the house, she loves to eat it, so I made her a Celery and Peanut butter with some sandwiches for our kid and I because she doesn't like sandwiches.<br><br>When she came upstairs she yelled at me for making food for her. I thought she was joking because I'm sure she was hungry but she was actually mad. She said I should have let her make lunch because it's the least she could do since I was out working (I wasn't, I was sitting right next to her) and that I was ruining her dream and I was a piece of shit husband for not letting her make lunch. I apologised and said there would be no next time. <br><br>Is there any way I can make this right? I don't want my wife to hate me but at the same time I feel like she went overboard. I really thought I was helping and she went and ruined it because I was a good husband. I just don't know what to do.<br><br>​<br><br>Update: Well she read this. I was too chicken to show her so it was on my history so she found it. She's pissed. I'm not going to lie, I might have gone to my brother's place last night. We'll see how this all plays out.
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