I was married to a woman in the Army. She cheated on me with a fellow service member. 10 years later he cheated back

I was in high school with my ex wife when she joined the Army. We married, got a house and all that jazz. I did everything for her. I worked two jobs, paid all the bills, cooked, cleaned, maintained the yard and I even took care of her stupid dogs she brought with her into our marriage. Most of the time she wasn't even around. She would have to go away for 6 weeks at a time for her job, sometimes longer. One day we were discussing money and she argued that I was making enough to cover the house and bills and she should keep her deployment pay separate since she was the one in the military. That was a huge slap in the face for me. I felt like her husband, friend and supporter. I was also her doormat. She never even cleaned the house. She would get back from a trip, stay home for a day or two with a booze binge and then leave again. One day she was late picking me up. She told me she was with a fellow service member and that they went out for drinks. He was with his buddy too. I confront her about being late and how much I worried and would hate if anything happened to her. She said it wasn't her fault, they were light on staff and had to stay later. She accused me of being insecure when I tried to tell her how much she hurt me. A few days later she leaves for another trip. That's when I started arguing with her through texts. I see in her messages that she's talking to the dude from the bar a few nights ago and his friend. They were working on setting up a booty call with her and the other girls. I told her I don't trust her and we shouldn't be together. She lied to me and said it wasn't her, someone borrowed her phone. I knew better, she's never loaned out her phone before. I started going through her messages and she was getting with the other dude when they were both on deployment together. At one point he wasn't even her boss anymore but they were still talking about running off together. She lied to me about it all for months until I blew up at her and told her I don't even consider her my wife. Like she was my roommate. <br><br>So the last time she was on deployment, I had enough. I moved out, took all my stuff, closed the bank account in her name and put it in my own name. I left her and her stupid dogs. I also said goodbye to my entire family since they were all on her side. I told them it was a mistake that I didn't marry a woman that would make a good wife. She is single mom to her two fur babies now and I hear through the grapevine that she's dating a fellow mom with kids. Good luck to her, I hope her future wife treats her like she treated me, haha. <br><br>Now to the freaky part. I was talking to my new fiancé one day in 2020 and she mentioned running into an old friend. I asked her what they talked about and she said not much. Old times, work, family, etc. I asked her about his family. She said he was divorced now and his ex wife was in the Army. I said "what? Is that _____________?" I told my fiancé about my ex wife and she would occasionally hear me mention her. So my soon to be wife tells me she had a classmate in high school with my ex wife's name. Her ex-husband was a friend of my fiancé and her friend from the same high school. I found out that my ex ended up marrying the dude she had the affair with. I thought that was crazy but I forgot about it. My fiancé brings the story up about a month ago saying her friend was going through a divorce and she thought about me when she heard the story. Apparently he came home early from work and caught the other dude in their bed. My ex Army wife left the house with her dogs and the dude she was cheating on her husband with and they moved to another state..Directions away from where my ex husband lives. I don't know if they are actually living together or just running away from the consequences of cheating. My ex wife's new dogs are probably freaked out. I can't imagine the other dogs are too happy about this change either. I'm glad I got out of there when I could. I hear her mom is pissed about the whole thing and her dad is disappointed but won't say much. I'm not celebrating that they're divorced but I'm not sorry about it either.