AITA For Not Giving My Nephew A Kidney

I need some perspective here. I’ll keep it as short as possible. I’m an organ matcher, my job is connecting donors with recipients. <br><br>My dad has two children, myself and my brother. My brother has a child, so my only nephew. My age and my nephews age are irrelevant. <br><br>I’ve been called an AH by my family for not giving my otherwise healthy nephew a kidney even though I’m a match. I match him. <br><br>Here’s the problem, the kid is a moron. He got in a fight with another guy and as part of his “revenge” he needed blood from the hospital. He went in and based on the story I got from my BIL, he tried to take a needle from a nurse, she said no, he didn’t listen, she pressed a panic alarm (which also locks all the doors) and he punched her in the face and broke her jaw. <br><br>They had to sedate him to get him out. He was charged. His trial is in two weeks. <br><br>I went to get tested, I’m a match. I told my brother and his wife that I would donate but only if he gets a deferred sentence. I want him to serve his time, but I’m willing to donate if he only gets probation. <br><br>Despite that being an incredibly generous offer, my family has been calling me an AH. My Dad has been calling me twice a day telling me I need to do it regardless because otherwise his only grandchild might die. My brother is calling me and begging. I told them my decision is final, if he gets a deferred or suspended sentence I’ll do it. Otherwise I’m out and I’m canceling my appointment to get tested. <br><br>I think it might be an AH move on my part but I can’t help but feel the need to hold my ground here.