My husband has no friends and is ruining our lives because of it.

My husband is a pretty great guy, except he has no friends. Never has. I think this has a lot to do with why we have such a hard time socially. We go places, he’s awkward, he doesn’t know how to talk to people. He then sets expectations so low we can’t disappoint him. <br><br>For example, we will be invited to a family party. He will say he’s not going to know anyone besides me and his in-laws and he will not have a good time. Then he won’t try to talk to anyone, he’ll just sit there. I try to include him in conversations but then he will proceed to say something so backhanded and offensive that everyone will be offended, and then he will say “well, no one likes me cause I’m not a people person.”<br><br>It has always bothered me but I figured he needed to grow up. Then we had a baby and it became so much worse. I can’t go out and have coffee with the girls and baby. Our baby can’t go to daycare because he doesn’t have time to take her and pick her up. I am expected to go to everything with him because he won’t go alone. The other day we went to a party hosted by one of his coworkers and he barely talked to anyone there. He has been there almost 4 years. There was a band playing, he made fun of the singer in front of one of his coworkers, who was also the singer’s cousin. <br><br>I am tired of being expected to go be his emotional support with everything that he does. I would love to be able to have some sort of normalcy and go out with friends, but he doesn’t want me to have friends either. He always makes me choose between him and them and I get so annoyed but I am also so used to this I don’t even know what it would be like to have a spouse that would be fine with me going to dinner with friends without him.