I really want to transfer but I really don't want to transfer
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Throwaway because it makes me feel stupid but here are my problems:<br><br>I am a freshman at a top 2 university in the USA (ranked #1 based on US News, ranked #2 based on Niche). I can't really complain about this, but somehow I am absolutely miserable.<br><br>It's a combination of things. This semester I had to take a class that was something I already learned in high school, and I was absolutely disgusted that I had to pay >$6000 for this class. I'm a STEM major, and I really don't want to touch the humanities based on what my classmates have told me. It really makes me feel like I can't trust the education at this university, because they made me pay >$6000 for a class based on what my 10th grade US history teacher taught. I don't really trust the education at this university anymore, because if they lie about this, what's to say that they don't lie about other stuff? I'm not even going to touch on the fact that >$6000 for a single 4 credit class is absolutely ridiculous.<br><br>Furthermore, I'm in an honors program, and everyone based on what I've seen is a STEM major. I've never seen anyone in this program that is not in STEM. I'm not going to lie when I say that STEM majors are not my cup of tea. I'm a STEM minor but I don't want to be around STEM majors all the time. I want to be around English majors. I want to be around computer science majors. I want to be around psychology majors. I want to be around everyone. I'm sick of STEM. STEM has been my entire life since I was 5. I don't want to be around it anymore because I really don't like it that much.<br><br>I'm also really unhappy with the campus. I hate the buildings. I hate the food. I hate the dorms. I don't like anything about this campus and I don't want to be here anymore.<br><br>About a month ago, I applied to transfer to a few colleges, but in the end I didn't submit my applications. I don't want to touch transfer apps anymore, based on what my classmates have told me, it can be extremely hard to transfer, and I really don't want to transfer in the first place. I based my decision to attend this university based on the fact that it is a top university, and I really did not think it through. I took the first offer that came to me, without thinking about what I want, because I really based it on my parents' opinion. I know that I should have made this decision myself, but I think it's too late for that at this point.<br><br>​<br><br>I really don't know what to do, because on one hand, I don't want to transfer, but on the other hand, I'm really unhappy with my current university. If I transferred, I would have to take a gap year, which my parents would absolutely hate, because they really want me to graduate in 4 years. I really don't know what to do, and I'm really conflicted about this. What do I do?<br><br>\*\*\*\*\*EDIT: \*\*\*\*I am in STEM, I am Asian, and I am a woman. I mean, I'd gladly be able to join a sorority and party, but nobody invited me to do those things. Nobody invited me to join a sorority, nobody asked me to party. I've tried to socialize, to join clubs, but I've been rejected or ghosted at every turn. I don't know what else I am supposed to do. I've worked really hard to get here. I did everything I was supposed to do. I got good grades, and I didn't really rebel much. I'm really astonished that I'm not happy. Nobody told me that it was possible to dislike this life. Nobody told me that I would be unhappy if I got into a top university as an Asian woman in STEM. Nobody told me anything.
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