I’m 29 years old and I’m starting over from scratch. My ex wife divorced me and took everything.

I had a really good job, really good money, and was doing really well. I thought I had found my soul mate and we got married. My wife had 0 debt, and a pretty good paying job as well, so we decided to buy a really expensive house together. We combined our money, and we were eventually making over 200k a year. We lived a great life, nice cars, expensive clothes, and even better vacations. <br><br>Throughout it all I started noticing little things, she would complain about the grocery store, even though we had 40k in our savings account, she would yell at me for buying steak for lunch, she had 0 debt and made almost 100k a year. We had thousands of dollars a month after paying the mortgage. <br><br>I thought it was a little strange, but hey we were living huge, until I started catching her in lies. She said she took a 8,000 dollar loan from a family member for a expensive purse she wanted. I took her word for it. I also noticed she was spending a lot of money on Amazon. I noticed she was getting expensive deliveries, expensive flowers, and more. <br><br>I asked her about it, she told me she was buying stuff to send to her coworkers. I asked her why so many packages were getting sent to our home. She said it was because she had 0 chance of finding what she wanted because she “wasn’t dumb like I was” and that really bothered me. <br><br>I thought it was a little suspicious. <br><br>Well one day I found a text. She was having an affair with the CEO of her company. They were talking about how they should probably stop seeing each other because she had “blown away his money”. I felt my heart hit the ground. I confronted her and she cried. <br><br>Since then, it’s been a complete shitshow. She slept around on me, she was having an affair with a coworker, she had 3 different credit cards, and she was spending over 10,000 a month. The affair with the CEO is what was really suspicious. <br><br>I had to tell her I wanted a divorce. It was so bad. She was acting mentally unstable. She had a complete mental breakdown. She screamed at me, cried, and even slapped me. I told her she could leave the house and I would let her go peacefully. She couldn’t believe that I was so calm. <br><br>I thought it would be simple. I thought it would just be clean. It wasn’t. She had spent over 40k. I had to pay it all off. <br><br>The divorce was granted after 3 months. I was able to get 15k back from the house and after selling everything. I’m left with about 10k. I’m really sad about it. I thought I was going to have so much more. I’m 29 and I’m just starting over. <br><br>I’ve spent the last week crying about it. I’m sad. I’m so sad. I would never thought this would happen to me. I’m really unsure of what to do. I’m really unsure. <br><br>I’m gonna buy a small condo and just stay there. It’s a 200k condo so I would have to get a mortgage. I’m sad. I really don’t know what to do. I had a really good life. I thought I had a really good wife. <br><br>I’m trying to get a better job, I’m trying to get more money. <br><br>I’m unsure. I really don’t know what else to say. <br><br>Edit: Thank you to everyone who has reached out so far. I don’t really know how to respond to everyone. I really just wanted to vent. I appreciate all the advice. I’m really unsure of what to do. I’m unsure.