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My (23F) bf (25M) said that my (23F) paintings scare him. How can I get him to appreciate them?

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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Im a professional (well, part time) artist. Our apartment has a lot of paintings that I painted and many that I bought. I also have a second studio apartment that I rent specifically for my work. <br><br>I talked to him about my passion and about how much I love painting, and he never said anything, he seemed alright with it all. And then he finally told me that he doesnt really like painting, and that my paintings give him a weird creepy vibe. I asked him what specifically made him uncomfortable about them and he said that its not something he can describe. He said they scare him.<br><br>I tried talking to him about how painting is my passion, how I am good at it and how much I enjoy it. He said that he loves music, but he doesn’t specifically look for creepy music and pay for it to listen to. He said that if I was just painting out of hobby, he would be alright with it, but I specifically seek out creepy subjects and buy them. And that it creeps him out to look at them all the time. I told him that I am an artist, I paint what I like, sell what I can, and I don’t go out of my way intentionally to be creepy. <br><br>Then I told him that I have an apartment full of my paintings also, and he said that hes never been comfortable there, and that he was waiting until I sold enough to be able to terminate the lease, which I myself wanted to do eventually, but not anytime soon. <br><br>I told him that he is being unreasonable to ask me to stop painting creepy paintings, because I am an artist, and art reflects the soul or whatever you call it. Please help me come up with something to say that will make him appreciate it. I really don’t want to give up my other apartment, and I don’t want to stop painting creepy paintings. And I don’t want to break up with him either.<br><br>UPDATE: Thank you guys for the comments, I never would have seen this from his point of view if not. I’ve spoken to him and we’ve agreed on two things. 1) I will buy a large storage unit to store a lot of the art that I have accumulated. 2) I will be more considerate of the subjects that I paint. I am also thinking about painting some happier subjects but I might not do that yet since I still have a lot of commissions in my book that people want me to paint, and it would be terrible to break a promise or break a contract. I’m also considering moving my studio apartment out of town, but that could be difficult so I’m not sure yet.

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