My boyfriend of 13 months told me he’s never going to marry me because I do something all women do and I’m so confused

18F and 20M. He’s giving me the silent treatment right now, so I thought I’d come here, as internet strangers can sometimes offer great advice.<br><br>So yesterday evening I made myself a snack, nothing crazy just some rice cakes and almond butter with banana. The remains of the banana went in the bin, as I had no use for it. When he came home, he asked what I was doing and I said nothing, just making myself a snack. He noticed the banana in the bin, and then he asked why I didn’t save it for banana bread, or banana smoothie. I told him I didn’t feel like it and honestly, I didn’t know we had a banana in the house. Not to mention, he was the one who had brought home all the groceries recently, as I was working a lot. He was quite shocked that I didn’t remember him bringing home bananas. I think he was expecting me to know, as he felt that I had let him down for not saving the banana.<br><br>I was honestly confused, because what all women does? Why should all women know exactly what groceries were brought home and how they’re going to use them? Is it all women’s jobs to keep track of what’s in the fridge? Why does this all have to fall on women? I know women who choose to stay at home full time and deal with this kind of stuff, and that’s all well and good if that’s what she wants. But I don’t want that, and he knows that. I want to get a good job, earn a good amount of money and work my way up in a career. I want to become financially independent and if I ever get married and have kids, I expect my husband to also be earning money to provide for us. <br><br>I understand that he was a little disappointed, but I feel like he doesn’t really expect me to marry him if I don’t do all these little things that he classes as all women’s jobs. He wanted me to feel bad for not saving the banana, but I truly didn’t feel bad. I didn’t really see it as a problem. I feel like he classes me as a housewife, even though I’m not a housewife. I work a part time job in retail and I’m working my way up in my career. I get paid just as he gets paid. The only difference is that he earns a little more than me. But that sounds a bit ridiculous to me. If he earns a little more than me, does that expect me to do a little more of the housework? <br><br>I understand he was probably just having a bad day and wanted someone to take his frustrations out on. But I do feel a bit confused, as he’s never said anything like this to me before, and I feel like I’m a bit confused as to how he views me. A lot of the comments I’ve read have said that he probably classes me as a girlfriend, but I feel like if he wants to marry me, I should be a bit more than a girlfriend? If he asks me to marry him, I feel like he should respect me a little bit more. <br><br>I’m starting to feel a bit like I’m nothing more than a housekeeper to him, rather than a girlfriend. I feel like he’s not seeing me in the same light as he used to. I feel like he’s going to start expecting more and more from me and I feel like he’s just going to get lazier and lazier. <br><br>I feel like I’m alone in this, and I feel like I’m the only one who thinks this way? A lot of the comments have said he’s right, women do have to do all the housework and all women should know what groceries have been brought home and how their going to use them. Is it all women’s jobs to do the housework, or is it my job to do the housework, because I’m his girlfriend? <br><br>I’m probably overthinking this, and I’d just love a bit of advice. <br>Tl;dr ex threw a tantrum because I threw a banana in the bin and I feel like he doesn’t respect me very much and I’m probably overthinking this whole thing.