Why do women go for thugs or players, yet want/share a ‘good guy’?

My 25f cousin recently told me she and her man had an argument and he punched a hole in the wall and she was like ‘some women like that…some women like being scared a little’ and I agreed, but part of me was like…why do you want to be scared a little. It brought back memories of me liking/share with a guy that cheated on me and I got scared about how much he was ‘into me’…like I felt like he wanted me too much and it was scary, but also kind of nice…<br><br>Then I was thinking about how I have shared/share with a guy that has cheated on his ex-wife…twice…somehow he still denies it. I shared with him part of me was like ‘wow you’re making me part of this, even though I shouldn’t be…I won’t matter to you…you won’t take care of me’…and then my insecurities came out and I begged him not to hurt me…<br><br>I know it’s not right, but I’m not going to defend myself, I’m asking why…why do we all go for thugs or ‘bad boys’? Why do we want to be scared? My cousin won’t defend him ‘cos he’s a ‘bad guy’ and she knows/share with that, but still she likes him…why do we like people who will hurt us?<br><br>I shared/share with with a guy that cheated on me part of me was like ‘oh damn you must really like me’ and I got scared about how much he ‘needed’ me…<br><br>Why do we women all go for thugs or ‘bad boys’ and ‘players’, even though we know ‘they won’t take care of us’?