AITA for ruining my son's wedding because money is money?

**Edit: While I do appreciate temp accounts made to share personal stories about divorce and child support, this post is not the place. Furthermore this is not personal advice for myself. I am just sucking in the catharsis and it's helping me get through my day.**<br><br>I (M50) have been married to my wife (F52) for 6 years and we have a son together (25). My wife has a daughter from her previous marriage (24) who I have helped raise as she has no father figure in her life. <br><br>We live in Florida, but my wife grew up in California - so her family lives there. While I am not too concerned about the expense of traveling to California for a wedding, I have no desire to ever step foot in that state again. The traffic, the people, the culture...it's all so nightmarish for an old man like me. <br><br>Back in May, our son said he was engaged to his girlfriend and that they were planning on having the wedding in California so his future in-laws wouldn't have to travel. When I said, "Hell no, I'm not flying anywhere near Los Angeles" they compromised and said they would have it in Napa Valley instead. I told them that if I were ever to be in California again, I would be dead and they could scatter my ashes in that god awful state. <br><br>&amp;#x200B;<br><br>I have since learned through my parents that they were planning on having the wedding in Napa anyway, but were going to tell me that it was in Florida to get me to go. While I was angry, I decided to confront them and tell them money is money and I don't care if I miss their wedding. The Bride was in tears and my son hasn't answered my calls since. My wife says it was an asshole move, but admitted it sucks to make people travel for a wedding. My money, my rules.