My (F29) husband (M34) is mad at me because I wouldn’t let a stranger come into my house to clean it.

Just the other day, my husband had a meeting planned with one of his coworkers. The coworker was new so he could give them a ride to the meeting. However, 30 minutes before he had to leave he still hadn’t cleaned the house he was supposed to clean (he always does a bad job so I have to go behind him and clean it). He was still vacuuming when I told him to hurry up. He told me to calm down and then it hit me. He was trying to get the house cleaned so his coworker could see how nice it was. I asked him if that’s what he was doing and he got mad at me and said I should be glad he’s trying to clean it and went on with the rest of his day.<br><br>He got home and I confronted him about it. I told him, “since you think it’s so important for other people to think our house is nice, do you think I care what strangers think of our house? If they think it’s nice, good. If they think it’s dirty, I really don’t care since it’s our house.” I went on to tell him I work hard to keep our house clean and I’m tired of people walking into our house and thinking it’s dirty. He went on to yell at me about how I don’t let him have any friends over and how when I do let people in the house they can’t see the whole house. He told me he values what other people think more than he values me. Is anyone else having trouble with their spouse thinking their feelings are more important than their own feelings?<br>TLDR: my husband values what others think over his own wife and gets mad at me because i dont want people in the house i pay for.<br><br>Edit: I want to say thank you to everyone who has commented so far. I know it seems strange that I wouldn’t want people in my house (or so my husband says). I grew up in a household where I was physically and mentally abused. Specifically when I was a child I would get in a lot of trouble for my room being messy. The only place I felt safe was my room so I kept it clean. My husband knows how I was treated growing up and still thinks it’s okay to bring up. I can’t trust anyone. I don’t even know if I can trust my husband. If I let someone into my house, they could take my things, touch me without my consent, or hurt my pets. My husband knows all of this and still tries to get me to let people in. This is just a small example of how my husband doesn’t care about me. I just wanted to update in case anyone was wondering why I don’t want people in my house.