My husband (M35) is a chef and his restaurant is getting a new manager. I (F28) think this could be a problem.

So my husband is a sous chef at a pretty upscale restaurant. He is being groomed to take the chef position, but right now the restaurant is run by the owner (who is a very experienced chef) and one of the owners sons.<br><br>The owner is looking to retire and his son is looking to move away from the area (but is also taking a step back from the restaurant). So there are two positions opening up. The first is the chef position that my husband is being groomed for. The second is the managers position. This position was also supposed to go to one of the owners other sons, but the owner just found out that this son is actually a racist bigot and is going to give the position to one of his sons friends instead. <br><br>The thing is, the friend is someone my husband has a history with and it isn’t good. The friend and my husband were friends in high school. In fact the friend helped get my husband into the culinary school he went to. They were pretty close friends until my husband started dating me. The problem is that I am black. The friend made a few racist comments about me to my husband which my husband didn’t react to. The friend then made the comment directly to me and that’s when my husband reacted. He basically told the friend he wasn’t allowed around him or me anymore. We haven’t spoken to the friend since.<br><br>Now the owner is trying to bring the friend on as the manager and my husband is not happy. The owner doesn’t believe my husband that the friend is a “racist piece of sh-t’. He thinks that my husband is just mad that the friend made racist comments and that the friend otherwise regretted what he said and was willing to work with us in the future.<br><br>The owner even went so far as to say that if my husband can’t get along with his new manager than he could find a job at a different restaurant. My husband is at a loss about what to do and I honestly don’t know either. My husband really loves his job and has always gotten along with the owner. He even sees the owner as a sort of father figure. He does not want to have a bad relationship with the owner or to leave the restaurant. He’s honestly just hoping that the manager position is just a temporary thing and the owners son will come back after a year or so.<br><br> chambers what should we do?