Being modest, humble and non-confrontational is about to kill you.

So I was on a date last night with a cute girl from Bumble. She was actually a nice girl from a high paid job and had a good personality. First date so I was being a little reserved at first. We had a good conversation about our careers and lives and made each other laugh. Everything looked very good.<br><br>After a while we ordered dinner. I noticed a lot of other diners coming and asking for their meals for the longest time before their waiter took them some food that was already ready. One lady asked politely for her food for the fifth time and the waiter gave her a smirk. I thought that was rude and the lady looked embarrassed. I wanted to say something but felt like I’d get kicked out and ruin the date.<br><br>Then after we had ordered for a while the same thing happened to us. The waiter didn’t take us our appetisers or our mains. I asked politely a few times and being a non confrontational guy I gave them a lot of benefit of the doubt. Finally the girl I was on a date with asked again, and then the male waiter came back looking embarrassed and said it’ll be out in 5 minutes. Finally, after we had waited for a long time, he came out with our appetisers and then our mains.<br><br>This whole process took over 3 hours and we were there from 11:30 am to 2:30 pm. We didn’t get our food until 2:20 pm. I think if I had pushed harder and complained earlier we would have gotten our food faster. I was being a nice guy and felt like a pussy being modest and humble. In hindsight, I should have been more demanding.<br><br>Edit: I didn’t want to be rude and kick up a fuss because I didn’t want to ruin the date. I just wanted to enjoy the time with her but I feel like my lack of assertiveness fucked up the experience for her.