UPDATE to: It's been 7 months since I found out my husband of 2 years was cheating on me with his TA. I'm 4 months pregnant with his baby and I'm happy, but my trust in him isn't.
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This is my update. Thank you to everyone who replied on my previous post. I got lots of advice, and so I decided to confront him. He was expecting my reaction, and he apologized profusely. We talked for like 6 hours and he admitted that he was feeling really insecure and stupid. He said he didn't know what came over him. He said he'd like to go to therapy with me, and I said yes. We hugged and I could tell he was very sad, so I hugged him and kissed him. I could see it in his eyes that he was telling the truth. He said he's never going to risk losing me or our baby. He says he wants to age with me and grow old together. I'm so happy. I'm so grateful that he was telling the truth. I just feel like the biggest weight is off my shoulders. I'm also 5 months pregnant now and the baby's kicking a lot. Thank you to everyone who gave advice.<br><br>ORIGINAL POST:<br><br> It's been 7 months since I found out my husband of 2 years was cheating on me with his TA. I'm 4 months pregnant with his baby and I'm happy, but my trust in him isn't.<br><br>My (F26) husband (M29) and I met in college. We got married 2 years ago and it's been an amazing marriage. We are each others best friends. We do everything together. Although he gets busy sometimes with his studies because he is in medical school, I'm very patient with him and supportive.<br><br>​<br><br>7 months ago, I found out he had been having an affair with his TA. It devastated me. I didn't know what to do. I thought about leaving him but I was already 2 months pregnant at the time, and I keep thinking that maybe it's the pregnancy hormones but I just wanted to protect my baby at all costs. So I stayed with him. He was very apologetic and promised me it wouldn't happen again. I believed him. He's been amazing ever since the incident and has been very loyal and supporting me with my pregnancy.<br><br>I'm 4 months pregnant now and I have been happy with our situation. However, for the past 3 weeks, I've noticed that he's been spending more time with his friends than me. He goes out more often, and he rarely wants to hug me or kiss me. He's still been amazing but I feel like he's losing interest in me. I've tried talking to him about it but he assured me he's still interested in me and that the only reason he's spending more time with his friends is because he needs a break and that he's tired from all the stress in med school. I believed him but I'm still skeptical.<br><br>​<br><br>I'm so lost right now. I don't know how to handle this. I want to trust him but I'm worried that he's going back to his old ways. Should I let it blow over or should I address it right away? Should I give him space or should I be keep an eye on him? I'm so confused and I don't know what to do.<br><br>​<br><br>Please help me.
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